Recently I have been quite open about my nerves. I think it's the only way I can deal with them by acknowledging them and just taking everyday (most of them I have an inner argument with myself about selling and giving up) as it comes good and bad. I find giving my self a plan helps. Maya is 5 this year. She's hardly done anything! People often question this and I just tell them simply it's my nerves. They then assume that I'm a novice and proceed to give me advice or ask what Maya is doing to make me nervous. She is a lovely pony and she doesn't do anything in particular that scares me. She is better to handle and is turning into a real partner. I'm very proud of her. I just come to a complete mind block when the saddle goes on! I just get frustrated when people assume I don't know what I'm doing I've had horses all my life, I'm a great rider and a great handler. I've put a lot of time into training and preparing her all her life. Does anyone else find that people just assume you are a novice rider when you say to them you are struggling with nerves?