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[joanne555]

can any one give me any advice i have been t lok at a new horse and paid a deposit on him ,,,unfortunatly when i went to try him i got on another one that ran off with me in the school .and i couldnt stop him i was terrified.so i looked at the one im gettin just walked and trotted in the schol no problem ...so i said i would have him paid deposit and they are keeping him till january,,, unfortunatly when i returned a few days later to see him and ride him in school i gt n and just froze i felt really nervous so much i had to get off ,,, i just keep thinking that he might not stop like the other one did...now i dont know what to do can any one help i am usually full of confidence but its all gone HELP .....................

[jazzybear]

Aww hun, it was the other horse that did it, not the one you have looked at. Could you go up with your RI or someone else and go and ride him again? A lesson on him might help your confidence. Or get someone else to ride him and you watch then get on afterwards?

Perhaps you could arrange to go and see / ride him regularly until you get him?

[martini55]

Has the horse you have put a deposit on done anything to make you feel this way or have you just lost confidence from the other horse you rode? How do you truely feel about the horse you are buying?

Do you have an instructor or experienced friend you could take along with you to see the horse. You could watch them ride and perhaps once you see the horse ridden by someone you trust you might feel better about getting on and doing it yourself. However, if you don't feel confident about getting on after that then I think you seriously need to reconsider your decision to buy him, sorry.

[joanne555]

the horse i have put deposit on is a real gentle giant my friend rode him in the school and he was fine he is only six and has hunted in ireland but he is very queit.and honest not spoilt at all ,its just i have lost all my confidence in any of them i think apart from my own that i have now but i dont wwant to miss out on this one .im going on saturday to ride him with my ri and see how i feel

[JOJOBA]

I would spend the time between now and january having lots of lessons to rebuild your confidence. Also see if you can visit the horse a few times to restore your faith in him.

Confidence is a fragile thing, but Im sure you'll get it back with some effort :)

xxx

[Troi]

I lost my cofidence after a napping running away episode. I found having someone to walk beside me to begin with helps, you will build up confidence as you get to know your new horse. :)
Good luck. Some of the threads on the mature riders section deal with confidence building. Small steps at any one time I read there and thats what I do:D

[Troi]

I lost my cofidence after a napping running away episode. I found having someone to walk beside me to begin with helps. You will build up confidence as you get to know your new horse. :)
Good luck. Some of the threads on the mature riders section deal with confidence building. Small steps at any one time I read there and thats what I do:D

[joanne555]

thankyou all i feel better all ready ..it must be my age i think 42 shhhh ... any way the one that ran off with me has been sold on as aforward gonig experianced rider only so at least good came out of it and it was stopped before any one else got on it especially an oldy like me

[Kittycat]

Take it steady. Perhaps you could see if you can spend time with him on the groud before January, to help build up trust in each other? When you trust him you'll feel more confident. If necessary just ride him at walk with someone next to you ready to hold him if he scares you. Your confidence will come back, unfortunately as we get a little bit older (you are not an oldie!) we worry more...:o:)

[Palomino Mare]

i had EXACTLY the same experience!


well maybe overexaggerated there but when i was trying out horses i got on one that was way more of a better horse than i was rider - it ran off with me and took 10mins to stop and only because my RI grabbed its reins.

i then tried jerry out and he was also as good as this horse but a little bit more accepting of my riding. i bought him but i was scared of riding him. i had lessons and yes he trotted uncontrolably and i was tense and thought he would bolt but gues what - he never has.

i would definately have lessons etc but also keep thinking to yourself its not the same horse. what has also helped is when i feel myself getting tense if he picks up the pace i just concentrate on relaxing. i also studied up on how to stop a horse should it bolt - very helpful too as i knew i could takcle it.

another fear i have is riding in the field. i took jerry on our first gallop together with Lucyad and oscar (safest steed around!:D) and he was a true gent - really suprised me and since then i like a weekly gallop! maybe taking him/her for a gallop will help you to enjoy the faster paces again:)

[joanne555]

im gonna go and ride him saturday... but before that im gonna take my horse i have now in the field and have a good gallop cause i trust him with my life then see what i feel like then after a good blast....

[joanne555]

hey there every one i did it i got on again and rode round the school he has go brakes was crying at the time mind you but feel so much better now thanks for all your advice xxx