would you be wary?

[nelsonsmum]

I put an ad on stabletalk a few weeks ago looking for a horse share. I have had someone contact me to arrange a meet but have been unable to find a time convenient to both of us. All contact so far has been by email. Well eventually it looks like we are going to meet but whenever I ask any questions about the horse it is ignored, I don't know how big or what temperament all I do know is it's a mare. Would anyone else have misgivings about this vagueness or am I just worrying too much?:confused:

[~*sugarlump*~]

yes i'd be wary, after all its the horse you'll be looking at not the person.
ask them directly about the horse and if they dont reply with adequate answers then i wouldnt bother replying again

[Skib]

You shouldnt meet anyone, even someone who posts on NR, without proper precautions. Like full name, address, phone and double check. Take someone with you and meet in a public place like a registered livery yard (contact the YO to confirm) or a pub.

[anna15]

yes i would be quite wary, but at the same time at least its not like a sale. make sure the owner rides first, i think its better to ask questions through phone or in person anyway, they tend to give a more straight forward answer;) :)

[Ruskii]

oh yes, after all your asking about her horse that your potentially sharing ! If they are ignoring your questions, I wouldnt bother I'm afraid. :(

[anna15]

make sure you speak on the phone first, and make sure somebody is with you on viewing.

[Tots N Dots]

I would be more than wary :eek:
dont go alone ;)

[Element]

I agree don't go alone. It seems odd that they are looking for a sharer and yet they aren't describing the horse! Hmm :confused:

[Skippys Mum]

Dont go full stop! If they wont give you any details then it sounds really dodgy. I can talk about mine till the cows come in and I'm not even looking for a sharer!! If they are unwilling to talk about the horse, it probably doesnt exist:(

[*Sez*]

I'd avoid it too.

When I was contacted by my sharer, she asked loads of intelligent questions, and I sent back a massive reply! I wanted to make sure she knew a bit about my horse, a bit about me, and a bit about the sort of person we were looking for, and I asked her a few questions as well, and we exchanged phone numbers. If they give you no information about the horse, you have no idea if it's even what you're looking for, and ultimately (assuming the horse exists) the whole thing may end up a waste of everyone's time.

[Chukka]

Yes totally agree with the others how can you go if your horse questions are ignored. Whats the point in that?

Walk away and forget it.

[Gruntfuttock]

Its dodgy. Why on earth would someone looking for a sharer not tell that sharer about the horse? I would be EXTREMELY surprised if there was a horse involved at all, TBH. walk away from this one and be glad that you may have dodged a bullet.

Skib's advice about meeting people, even ones you think you "know", is really sensible and should be heeded by everyone. i do often have major misgivings about the sort of adverts you see on NR classified, lots of very young teens spilling their soul to the world and publishing their full names, addresses and mobile numbers for the world to see. Frankly, a paedophile with a pony would be in heaven. Lots of yards are very isolated, and often there are not many other people around.

PLEASE keep yourselves safe.

[zippytys]

I agree completely with Gruntfuttock. Personally I wouldn't go at all as I doubt there is a horse at all. If you really want to go though please please please make sure you take a responsible person that you trust with you and make sure lots of people know where your going etc. Sounds a bit picky but it's better to be safe than sorry! :)

[nelsonsmum]

have decided against going and let owner know. Feel like a time waster now though in case it was genuine. Thnks for all your great advice as ever

[Shanny]

Better safe than sorry and the owner did himself/herself not favours by being so reticent about providing information.

[Gruntfuttock]

Feel like a time waster now though in case it was genuine.

You're not the time-waster, if anything the owner of the horse is, for not giving you the information about it upfront ! After all, if she/he had replied to your inital questions with frank and full information about the horse, you wouldn't even have been posting here about it would you? Therefore that owner wasted your time by not giving adequate information. Don't fret about it, i think it was a dodgy one anyway.

The right share horse is out there for you somewhere !

[nelsonsmum]

Just got a snotty email from owner for wasting time and saying that other people have missed out cos of me. :mad:

[horsesforever]

Just got a snotty email from owner for wasting time and saying that other people have missed out cos of me. :mad:

Ignore her, what cheek of her to say that after not providing proper information about the horse, and being so vague that she caused you to worry!! :mad:

[Chukka]

Yep she will get over it.

[rhsw]

You did the right thing, and that person is the time waster not you. Well done on walking away from that dogdy person.

[carrimclaren]

Just wanted to say i agree with everyone else. I'd be pretty narked off if an owner would not give me anymore information than oh it's a mare. It could be far too small or far too big, far too fizzy etc. It sounds extremely sussed, and even if it isn't would you really want to deal with an owner that can't even be bothered to give a good impression on a first meeting. :rolleyes: I'd say you're best out of it definitely. Don't worry about them saying you're a time waster, hardly your fault they can't do the job properly in the first place.