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FayeObs
8th Apr 2009, 05:50 PM
It breaks my heart to write this as i still dont think ive come to terms about the poor decisions i made.

I bought dolly around the age of 16, she was more or less bought from the field as was very fat. She was very strong and the lady had lost confidence. I loved her at first sight, and we bought her.

She was my 4th Horse, she was 15.3hh and i could see potential. I spent all my time with her, refused to spend time with friends because i'd choose a day at the yard over friends.

We over came great challenges. She wasnt great in solo hacking, we over came that and she trusted me hold heartedly. We's play hide and seek and she'd run to me on call. Shes all i ever thought about, we'd go hacking for hours just her and me. We went to local shows & enjoyed spending time together.

About 4 years in and i started spending less time down at the yard and in my eyes neglected her of my love. I was as quick as i could be and often just spent an hour down there instead of the full days. Boys had entered the scene... and i'd chosen them over my bestest friend in the world. If i was ever upset i'd only have to look at her to feel happy.

I eventually realised it was doing her no favours and i wanted no commitment. I sold her and kept in touch for a short time. I went to see her and as soon as i shouted she looked up and pelted up the field.... when i was leaving she was whinneying me to come back... with tears streaming down my face i drove off and i knew then i'd made the biggest mistake of my life.

I rung up another year later as i knew i had to break the contact cause the pain was too hard. The lady told my that she'd had to be PTS. I broke down and felt so guilty. My best friend gone and there was nothing i could do.

RIP baby girl. I miss you like mad and im sorry i gave you up for the sake of some stupid childhood loves. You were my only love..... xxxxxxxx

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JustJas
8th Apr 2009, 06:11 PM
(((Hugs)))

You must be going through the hell of a thousand regrets but do not beat yourself up.

At the time you think you did right thing selling her- you thought you had lost interest so for her sake let her go to someone who love her. Obviously new owner loved and cared for her. We all make bad calls and look back and think if I did it again. It is being human.

Take care.

FayeObs
8th Apr 2009, 06:14 PM
I understand what you mean, and thankyou x

I guess everything happens for a reasons and ive learnt the value of a true best friend xx

Chestnutter
8th Apr 2009, 06:17 PM
What a gorgeous girl. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I'm sure you felt you did the right thing at the time. RIP Dolly.

HollyG
9th Apr 2009, 05:49 PM
Agree with other posts, don't be too hard on yourself. We change as we grow older, priorities change. We all do things we regret. You made the right decision at the time you were making it...........

leah&lydia
9th Apr 2009, 05:58 PM
I have tears in my eyes!
Thats a heartbreaking story, but its not like you didnt have those good times, + they will stay with you forever.
As people have said we do things we regret, but we then learn from it. If your ever in that situation again then you'll think back + then think thro it more carefully. :)

FayeObs
9th Apr 2009, 06:27 PM
thank you guys xxx that really means alot.

whenever i meet a young girl.. i always say "dont choose boys over horses". But then again i guess its up to them. I just regret it... but your words make it easier x

simons-mum
10th Apr 2009, 02:12 AM
I'm sorry you're felling this way. I've been having a lot of what if, shouldn't and should have moments myself these last few days :( But I'm starting to accept there's no way we can tell the future and we just can't control unforeseeable events and circumstances.