Just need some support....

[HorseManiac]

Since the incident in May, my confidence is zero. To the point if I here a glimpse they might be anywhere near my village, I will not even ride out of the farm.

This is affecting Percy as he isn't fit as I would have liked him now. I will hack out in company or if I feel confident I won't pass them.

They have just turned on me again after I went out to a u18 nightclub(Deniros in newmarket) and had alot of fun, and got slaughtered because I looked like a idiot aparently. They called me fat :-(

I know its not true, but they do scare me, they go ' if you got anything to say come to ******* green now you dirrty *ket'

So that means there all in my village, and I have puppy training tonight.....out in the village, its puppy's road safety test so can't miss it.....and I need to do horse.....I think my sister's boyfriend will come to the horses with me and walk me to dog training, so I suppose thats ok.... but I really wanted to ride tonight and rest of week as I felt like I needed to go for a hack and blow the cob webs away again....as haven't in a few days...

I also feel so unmotivated to ride, picking at Percy's way of going constantly, probably annoying people with my constant questions :o:o:o

ooooooo :(

ETA i went out last night as I know the people there well( have been going for some time) and if any trouble started they would be kicked out.....i felt safe.

[CurlyWurlyRach]

nooooo :( Hugs from my way. i know a few people in Newmarket, just give the word and im sure I can get those awful people beaten up for you hehe :)

[LokiSofi]

oh sweetie I'm so sorry they are still causing you trouble. Not sure what to suggest :( so just sending you big hugs

[ForestGump]

((Hugs))

I don't know the ins and outs of what has happened so can't give excellent advice.

Its going to take ages for your confidence to come back, it won't be an over night fix.
Stay where you feel safe and comfortable, stay with people that you feel safe around and that you know will look out for you.

And stop blaming Percy's way of going, I can see how much you love that horse from you're posts.
Spend time with him, horses are great listeners and Forest has helped me through some rough times. ;)

And then maybe train the puppy to attack ;):D (Joking btw)

[horseygal90]

Big scary man on a bike following you?

Anyone you can hack out with?

[HorseManiac]

I can hack out in company......but theres that always constant fear as most of them live in my village.

Im off to California for 2 weeks on sunday so i'm hoping so time far far away will help.

CWR - lol, it might shut them up for a while and give me a rest ;)

I will talk percy tonight or tomorrow morning - i might ride in the field if i feel safe enough, but we have caught them down the horses ( they have been threatening to let him out!) sooo I dunno!

[NoviceNic]

If they continue to threaten you then record everything they say and when. Take names of witnesses and report them again. Keep fighting them hun. Tell your parents/grandparents, get some support. xx

[blonde]

omg whats happened

[HorseManiac]

No point - i was covered in bruises in May, the court said no as I raised my fist, police appealed and thought it was appualing, so they won't do anything, they take the p*ss out of me now because she didn't get charged.

[Jackblack]

have you thought about talking to the police for harrassment, try to just ignore them, i presume you are a teenager, could you get your parents to talk to the ring leaders parents, they prob dont even know their kid is a bully

[Howengold]

have you thought about talking to the police for harrassment, try to just ignore them, i presume you are a teenager, could you get your parents to talk to the ring leaders parents, they prob dont even know their kid is a bully

It is worth trying huni. You can get a non-molestation order put in place (I have looked into this myself and got advice from my friend who is a barrister and the police). It can be written to say they ca't come within a certain distance, can't go near your family and horse, the police even told me I could add things like they can't even look at me in a certain way. Basically you tell them exactly what you want the order to cover and the court does it, no messing about and the so and so's get a copy to inform them of it. If they breach the order then they will go stright to court and be charged. The police were very helpful to me.

Get someone to go to see a solicitor with you and have it explained or ask the police.

[sadiesparkle]

I don't know what happened, but I'm really sorry that whatever it was has shaken you up this much!! *hugs*

Howengold has a brilliant idea - I would definately persue it if I was in your shoes, whether they are teens or not.

I hope you get it sorted,

xxx

[HorseManiac]

Thanks for the replies, yes that has been mentioned and I think me and my mum will talk to our lawyers and get that sorted so I am able to go out with my mind at rest.

they have a reputation around here, there parents are just as bad :(

[Elly Koopman]

It is worth trying huni. You can get a non-molestation order put in place (I have looked into this myself and got advice from my friend who is a barrister and the police). It can be written to say they ca't come within a certain distance, can't go near your family and horse, the police even told me I could add things like they can't even look at me in a certain way. Basically you tell them exactly what you want the order to cover and the court does it, no messing about and the so and so's get a copy to inform them of it. If they breach the order then they will go stright to court and be charged. The police were very helpful to me.

Get someone to go to see a solicitor with you and have it explained or ask the police.

Was going to suggest this too - chin up chook and be brave, they are the cowards not you *hug*

[A-Spotty-Pony]

dont worry about them anneli, they are just petty girls looking for attention! i can always bike with you or something so your not alone if your ever worried in the future! hope your well xx

[Est]

I'm so sorry about this HM :( I loved reading all your Percy updates last time I was on the forum, and I hate to think that some mean people with nothing better to do with their lives are trying to spoil your pleasure and happiness.

All I can suggest is keep talking to your parents and friends, keep asking your parents to help push the legal channels, and keep posting here because we all want to offer support even if there's not much practical stuff we can do to help.

{Gentle hugs}

[Cortrasna]

Don't know the background to this but I am fuming on your behalf:mad: Low lifes like the ones you describe should be incarcerated for the rest of their miserable little existence in my opinion.

Do urge you to follow the good advice from Howengold - why should these awful, disgusting bullys be allowed to ruin yours and your familys life???:mad:

Wish I was there - they wouldnt mess with this old Granny I can tell you!!!:D A few sharp slaps with a riding crop followed by a couple of well deserved kicks from my horse would sent the little ***** crying to their mammys!!;):D

[ginageorge]

I dont know what went on hun,but iam very sorry,it sounds like you are having a horrible time and i really hope whatever has happened you can get it sorted out,have a lovely time in California try and enjoy yourself,take care.

[L34NN3]

Don't let the b*****ds get you down. Don't get mad get even! It looks like they see you as a soft target - by putting the order in place it will tie their hands beihnd their backs for sure. Normally I would say the only way to deal with bullies is bully them back but it sounds like you have already hit back once...

[Portia]

... by putting the order in place it will tie their hands beihnd their backs for sure......

...and by having a restraining order the police may have more opportunity to 'manage' behaviour. And if they breach the order it may affect any benefits they receive - recall reading this somewhere, but please don't take that as gospel as I may well be wrong.

So sorry to read this HM, you've had an appalling time with these morons, and I think you've been brilliant in doing as much as you have done since then. I hope you've been getting support to help you through this, and I mean through counsellors as well as parents etc. Enjoy Percy and don't let anything take away the joy you have with him, find things to do where you feel safe, and be proud of what you have - and will - achieve.

[Trewsers]

I don't know your story, but just wanted to offer some support. Sounds like you're having a tough time. Chin up. Trewsersxxxx