Stupid situation :(

[Me1234]

I've had my horse coming up 5 years now and i really do love him, but i just don't want him anymore.
I've started to hate the responsibility, the time pressures, the money i'm spending... none of it seems worth it and i just want him to sell asap (obviously i'll only let him go to a good home!).

I've had some interest, but not loads and he does have a few quirks which makes him harder to sell. He's now started to not canter properly in the school (no problem with him, had a vet last week who said all is fine) but i just don't have the motivation to try and sort it out. He's still cantering fine out hacking but in the school he just doesn't feel right... When people come to see him, they're going to want to ride him in the school and i'm guessing they'll think something is wrong when he feels so strange.

I just want to stop having the responsibility of a horse :( it's just like a huge weight on my shoulders all the time and it's getting in the way of the other things i want to do in life.

I know i sound horrible and really ungreatful but i can't help it. I've tried to get motivated again but i just can't. I wish i could just pass him onto a lovely new owner tomorrow and be done with it all. I've already got rid of all my horsey things, apart from one pair of jodhs and my hat... my heart just isn't in it anymore.

I'm not really sure what i'm asking here, but just some advice/support would be nice. It's really getting me down at the moment :(

[eml]

It really sounds as if it is all to much for you. Could you get someone to take your horse on sales livery? It may cost a bit but is a way of getting yourself out of the current situation quickly.

[x.Moomoo.x]

Well at least you are being honest about your situation!

The most you can do is advertise him, and when people ask about him - you should mention about his canter "problem" in the school, and say that he has been vetted and is sound etc. just needs some working on, or something like that.
Because if they really get on with him, they won't mind working on his quirks!

There's no point in keeping him if you really aren't into it all anymore (like you said) as it's a lifestyle choice (like other members on here have said!) and if there's other things in life you want to pursue but can't with your horse, then it is best to sell him.

Good luck x

[Sunshine-x]

at least you've admitted it! where are you as this is what i usually end up doing - riding things for selling. so if your local i may be able to help or if not someone on here may be able to.

[Kimmy C]

At five years old he is still very buyable. The people who come to view him may be experienced enough to understand why he is not cantering properly and may be able to get him to do it properly. Try and be patient and sell him to the right person. Good luck x

[Unicorn1980]

Aww that's a wee shame you feel that way, but its good your being honest with yourself. You obviously still love the horse and want the best for him, so don't feel to down on yourself! Just make sure its what you really want, why don't you try loaning him out for a bit? You do sound rather stressed *hugs*, and good luck with whatever you decide to do :)

Sharon x x x

[Me1234]

Thanks everone.

He was loaned by someone on my yard for 6 months but they had to stop quite suddenly a month or so ago, so i've ended up with the full responsibility of a horse again.

I'm just worried he isn't going to sell now. He has an odd way of moving anyway (not unsound) which makes him more difficult to sell and the canter thing is just another problem :rolleyes:

EML: I think sales livery would just cost way too much and i do want to make sure that the people are right for him so i'd like to get to meet them!

[Shelby&Me]

I think you should be commended for trying to do right by your horse, instead of keeping him half heartedly. it IS a huge commitment and does take over your life. Good luck, hope it all works out for you :)

[Unicorn1980]

I wouldn't worry to much about not being able to sell him, just be as honest as you can when people call and come to see him. Im sure the right, good home will come along sooner or later! :)

Sharon x x x

[Bailey's Boss]

Well done you for your honesty,there are too many people out there keeping horses for the wrong reasons. If you really want to give it all up, advertise at your local saddlery etc. If you offer to sell him quite cheap you will gain more interest and will be able to check out prospective buyers. I know someone desperate for her own horse, can afford the upkeep but not the initial cost of horse and tack. There are probably loads of people out there like her. Good Luck x

[Em 1]

........ he does have a few quirks which makes him harder to sell. He's now started to not canter properly in the school (no problem with him, had a vet last week who said all is fine) .....

What are his quirks? If sales livery isn't an option, could he be a working livery at a larger yard that needs slightly more challenging schoolmasters or is he too difficult for this?

I know i sound horrible and really ungreatful but i can't help it. I've tried to get motivated again but i just can't. I wish i could just pass him onto a lovely new owner tomorrow and be done with it all. I've already got rid of all my horsey things, apart from one pair of jodhs and my hat... my heart just isn't in it anymore.

Actually, I don't think you sound horrible at all. Even though you no longer get any pleasure from having your horse, you are still caring for him to ensure he goes to the best home possible. You are in a really difficult situation and it sounds like you're putting your horse first every time. I think that's lovely not horrible:o:)

[Stassy]

At five years old he is still very buyable. The people who come to view him may be experienced enough to understand why he is not cantering properly and may be able to get him to do it properly. Try and be patient and sell him to the right person. Good luck x

Does she not mean she's had him 5 years, so he could be a fair bit older than this?

[x.Moomoo.x]

Yes she's had him for 5 years... he isn't 5yrs old :rolleyes:

[Me1234]

Does she not mean she's had him 5 years, so he could be a fair bit older than this?

Yeah, i've had him nearly 5 years. He's 12.

Thanks for being so kind everyone, it's just so stressful!