regrets?

[lynnemh]

well, its raining, so i'm wasting time and making up a topic; in your life, if you had the chance to go back and do things differently, would you? do you believe in fate or destiny? ( will reply to myself later!)

[Kimmy C]

Hi I was posting a reply and my computer shut down:mad: Yes, I would do some things a lot differently if I had the chance but they say we learn from our mistakes. On the subject of riding I think with age comes experience and sometimes better understanding. I was 29 when I got Adella and am now 51 so I see some things differently now. I do regret that I never did much showing and dressage with her but I have done lots of sponsored rides and jumping although I was never much good at it. She has always been fussy in the mouth and when I first got her I was impressionable and kept on putting different bits in her mouth. I have only recently tried an Easy trek bitless bridle and she seems so much happier with this, her transitions are smooth and so are her gaites. Do get me wrong she does go OK in a bit but I am amazed at how well she goes in her bitless.

[Carrie+Morgan]

Oh yes if I could go back I would save myself so much money by not buying the first pony I saw because I felt sorry for him, he was lovely but scared of his own shadow did not do either of us any good confidence wise, but then I look on the bright side if I hadnt have been down my old yard and been having problems I would not have met my mares owners and then I would not have the opportunity to loan my wonderful mare and come April she will be mine as i am buying her.

Have gone from a nevous nellie that cries everytime she goes to get on, to hacking, galloping :p and jumping I am very lucky to have a fantastic support from friends and of course my wonderful mare who I love :D

I really believe everything happens for a reason :D

[Nookster]

Another that believes everything happens for a reason. The good and the bad helps us develop and become the people that we are.

I don’t have many regrets in life – can’t get upset on what’s happened as we can’t change it we can only change what we do going forward.

One instance for me that I can’t move forward from is the misdiagnosis of my last lad Chinook – will always regret the time that was lost, and not pushing my point and opinions with vets stronger.
Very sad time for me but a time that has given me so much to learn from and so much more appreciation for what I have.

[Trewsers]

Hmm, interesting question!

Well, with regard to horses - I wouldn't do it differently, as I believe everything is meant to happen for a reason. A chain of events started for OH and myself back in 2003 and I believe that it was all going to happen and nothing I could do would have changed it. To get where we are now, ie, living with the horses at home and settled into a horsey life-style I believe that if I'd tried to do it all earlier (I was a late starter) it wouldn't have happened like this - and I believe it would not have worked so well.

Other things I would change - (non horsey) well, hey, who can't say there aren't numerous things? It may sound twee or even ridiculously sentimental, but I would try and be kinder to people if I could go back in time. And, be more tolerant of other people's attitudes / beliefs. The older I get, the more I see thing from a different point of view and believe that everybody should be allowed to do their own thing (so long as they're not hurting anybody in the process).

[eml]

I believe life takes you where you are meant to go...not necessarily where you planned but an exciting adventure!!

I could have gone in very different directions at points in my life but apart from the odd moment of 'what if' never ponder and certainly never regret.

Only one 'what if' in my horse life when I was talked out of buying a horse for myself. Would it have changed my life compared with the one I did buy?

[1962mclean]

Yes. I regret trowing a tantrum last week with my partner and behaving like a 2 year old and taking everything I bought from his flat ( yes bedding , towels ,kettle the lot!!!) and driving directly to the skip.
Now he wants nothing to do with me , Iwish I still had his friendship

[ADHD Alfie]

Im taking advice from good old Robbie Williams... No regrets they dont work!! :D
Everything happens for a reason, and 1962mclean, i have been there not so long ago in a similar situation and i dont know what i would have done if it wasnt for my ponio, he's the one and only man in my life now :)

[greymare]

Everything happens for a reason and you have to go with the flow, but learn from it.

I don't have regrets as such. Everyone i have met has taught me something and everything I have done has made me the person I am - whether you like it or not)

I think that sometimes going over the past and planning the future means missing out on other things

In my personal life - there are things I shouldnt have done when I was younge,r but it taught me a few valuable lessons.

In horse life - i rely very heavily on Tyler for support and I cant believe how lucky I am to have found him. I have met people and situations that i would rather not have, but you live learn and laugh :D

[essexlady]

I try not to regret anything in life and along with others believe things happen for a reason and as long as you learn from your mistakes, they are not mistakes they are a learning curve.

I had my children young and got into horsemanship later in life.

I settled down young with the wrong man and am now with a very nice man who happened to always lived down the road when I was younger.

I guess my only life regret is the years of smoking and wasting so much money but now it just makes me appreciate not smoking and what money I have:p

As for horsey regrets, not had any to date but only had my own horsey for a year;)

[x.Moomoo.x]

Definately agree with the, everything happens for a reason side of it (although have my doubts when really bad things happen like deaths! :mad::() as I just can't justify why it happens at the time.

I don't think I would go back and change anything? Apart from probably try a bit harder in school and my first year of college as things would be a lot easier now, but I'm slowly piecing it back together, so it's all good.

Definately believe in fate/destiny. I truly believe fate brought me and my old loan pony together as we were such a match (and unusual circumstances) it was almost untrue... & her owner is now probably my closest friend who treats me like a daughter! and has pulled and helped me through a lot of things, and we got through the death of our pony together.

And towards the non-horsey side of it, I don't actually regret anything, for the fact if it's happend it's happend, and there's nothing you can do about it, and things I'm not so 'proud' of, I've learnt from, so :) yeah I'm happy with my life I think. Haven't done anything too drastic that I truly regret!

[lynnemh]

i think we all get to where we are meant to be on this lifes journey ( i believe in reincarnation) . some of us take the fast route, and some of us go scenic, with some dead ends and detours on the way.. so in that , i believe in destiny, in that we are becoming what we chose to become. i dont really regret anything i have done in the past, because i have learnt a lot of lessons by my mistakes, and my experiences have made stronger and wiser. and looking back, some of my most heartbreaking actions or decisions at the time, have, in retrospect, been the making of me, and saved me from a life which i think i would have hated, as i grew older. so no regrets. but do i cringe at some of the things i have said or done- oh loads! as a younger person i was witty but not tactful, and very impatient of others, and looking back, i think i was actually cruel at times, in things i have said. and i have sometimes done things or agreed to things simply because the other person has had more forceful charecter, or spoke with authority, and i have went along with it, which has invariably been the wrong thing.

[kturner]

Besides lifes lessons and experiences and all that, that I have had for taking this path,.......2 great daughters came out of the way life went, but,....

if I could go back, ONE bad decision, which I do regret, sent my life on the course it has taken. Not too pleasant. An accident then made it worse. Could it have been avoided, dont know, may still have happened in a different way.

Lost love. That hurt will never heal so I just blot it out.

I have not been miserable, but accepted what I decided, taken life as it comes, been totally accepting of my circumstances, and relatively happy.

Horse wise, enjoyed every moment, good or bad, loved them all unconditionally, never had a single regret. Little un that I still have has put me through my paces more than once, but in a funny way it has brought us closer together which we would never have had if we were perfect matches to begin with. He had to mellow and age, and I had to do the same. It is has been the most unforgettable journey. :D

[eventerbabe]

There are a few things i regret, like not moving my precious Bonnie off the horrid livery we were at (which was making her physically ill) sooner. I regret letting a particular RI near my horse and then having to correct the damage she did strapping him down in side reins. But, as others have said you can't turn back time. I just thank my lucky stars i had bonnie as long as i did and she moulded my riding and made me what i am today. On a personal level, part of me regrets not taking a gap year and reapplying to vet school. I had the grades and only gave it one shot. Part of me thinks what if i'd not thrown in the towel and had persued it for another year. Thereagain, i'm now in a job i simply adore and am good at so i probably wasn't destined to spend my life with an arm up a cows backside :D