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Canaan's Mom
1st Dec 2003, 06:52 PM
Hello All -

Because I am now a member of the 40 and over club - I thought it would be appropriate to post here.

Here is my story: I owned a horse when I was 16 and have only ridden on rental plug horses sporadically since then....until now. My wonderful husband decided to get me my very own horse (what a nice guy) recently. He didn't want to surprise me totally and we worked together to pick out the right horse for me (or so we THINK). Anyway, I got an 8 year old gelding who threw me the 1st day I got on him away from the barn where I bought him. I have been told by EVERYONE the he is a really nice horse. The woman who sold him to me, the YO at my new barn, etc. After a mere 2 months together - he has learned to walk on my lead (instead of just staring at me after he is hooked to the lead rope). So I guess I am doing some thing right. Overall, he is pretty good about letting me groom him and he listens well IN THE RING. But I am too afraid to venture out of the ring because I don't want himn to bolt or throw me because he is afraid. I have been trying to walk him on the lead rope to new areas (maybe 100 or 200 feet away from the barn) and he huffs and puffs like a scared little girl! I am starting to think that we will NEVER get to go on hacks! I don't ever remeber any of these battles with my old horse - or maybe I was just younger and able to take more risks - I don't know.

I have been trying natural horsemanship techniques with him - so that now we are "kind-of-friends" - but I do not know if he respects me enough to listen to me when he is afraid ....and I AM too afraid to find out!

There are only 3 boarders at my barn (all English, 2 hunt and 1 shows) - so I am the only Western gal for miles around. Maybe I am also feeling like if I can't get my boy out of the ring ON MY OWN - then we don't have a chance of seeing any trails at all in the Spring. My husband says that I just have to MAKE HIM go out of the ring (regardless of his academy performances in breathing heavy, shying, or scaring me to death!). What do you all think? Has anyone else had a similar experience/s that maybe I could learn from? I feel like I am the only "new kid on the block" and I don't like not knowing what I'm doing.....

Tootsie4U
1st Dec 2003, 07:00 PM
He's afraid and you're afraid, so I dont recommend following your hubbys advise as it is much more difficult than that right now. Since you are both equally afraid, it would be like the blind leading the blind.

Someone's got to take the lead, and that should be you. Continue that groundwork you've been working on (again, the tarp training I recommended awhile back is ideal for what you're going through right now). But, in the meantime, is there someone who could hack him out for you for a few times? That way you will be able to see your horse in action, in safety, off his back. You can watch his reactions and learn what it is that scares him and what he does when he's scared. If he has a more confident rider aboard, he may react entirely different than what you think. If so, that can only restore his own confidence in time until you're ready to get on and take over. Continue training yourself to train your horse and you'll do just fine in time.

Ipsa
1st Dec 2003, 07:49 PM
Agree with Tootsie. I would see if there was someone experienced who could take him out a few times.
After that maybe you could ride him while someone walks beside you and has him on a lead for a few times as well.
You need to set it up so you only have positive experiences so you can gain some confidence.
good luck:)

H & Bailey
1st Dec 2003, 08:06 PM
get your hubby to walk with you whilst you take the horse out...he suggested you going out so maybe suggest that he can help a bit by having a wander with you?

Canaan's Mom
2nd Dec 2003, 01:30 PM
Hi Everyone -

You guys are the best. It seems like such a simple solution, but I had never thought of it - wow. I have at least two people (English hunters) who are very experienced and probably would be happy to help me out in this way. Also, I think once they have successes with him on the trail - MY taking him out (while they hold) would be EXCELLENT!!! I'm very excited about my new options....THANKS AGAIN!!!!

galadriel
2nd Dec 2003, 01:39 PM
Originally posted by Canaan's Mom
I'm very excited about my new options

Good luck!

CityGirl
2nd Dec 2003, 02:13 PM
Good luck! I would suggest making it short & sweet the first time. Don't expect to ride out for an hour on your first attempt.:D Maybe 10 minutes followed by lots of praise for your boy if he does well!

Also, if you can, it would probably be very helpful to get some lessons. Someone on the ground to watch you will probably help your confidence immensely.

Keep us posted!