Fred,Me,New horse,Broken Arm,betrayal..please read.

[Emma_G_NZ]

For those of you who can remember-I fell off my pony a on New Years Eve and broke my arm.I finally got a cast after 2 weeks of humming and harring by the doctors-And then sending xray to the specialist-And HIM saying that it was DEFINITELY broken and the doctors should have picked it up-I got a real cast.The other thing was really annoying.But to the main reason I posted this.I have almost outgrown my pony (Hes 13.3hh) which is basically wrenching my heart out.I havent had him long (6 months or so) and I really love him but my family and I have decided that it would be best to sell him on and get a bigger horse-That my MUM AND DAD can ride as well-Yes they are taking up riding!I would usually be glad about that-But i have to sell my pony and get a bigger horse-About 15.2hh or a little smaller-Which is going to be huge for me after being on a 13.3!!Well-I want to tell you what I have to tell u this huge story ok-To do with Fred and yeah..Ok i will get started.
Right-We had these friends-A lady and a girl my age-The lady knew heaps about horses and was looking for a horse for her daughter-Tubby girl and very tall.The lady was very helpful to us and everything and always gave us advice and stuff when we needed it.
Well-I emailed her and asked if she would like to buy Fred for her daughter-As she needed something quiet.
She then replied back "This is very sudden.I would like to come see Fred and see if he is 'daughters name' type of horse"
So we didnt reply back-Coz i decided the girl would be too heavy for Fred and I didnt really like the people anyway.
Well i got a phone call yesterday.It was the daughter "Mum says that we would like to come see Fred in the next hour or so and we would like to see if he is our type of horse".And i said "No wait until next week,(daughters name),Until we see the Standardbreds".The girl said "Oh-Well we want to see him today!!!" and i said "No we have to go out in the next half an hour and i still have to have lunch".And then she said "Oh well I will get mum to ring you back".
Ok-So her mum rings back half an hour-I am petrified after this phonecall coz her mother will be a bitch to me if she doesnt get her own way.
So her mum rings back."We would like to take Fred back to our property and see what he is like for the next two weeks".I said "No,Mum said not until we have seen the standardbreds".She said "Ok-Well after you have seen the standardbreds we want to bring him back next week or maybe this week coming".I said "Look-I told you,We havent seen the standardbreds yet".She said "We would still like him out on trial" (She didnt give me enough time to say No again and then she rattled on to say) "Before we take him on trial we want his teeth down BY OUR DENTIST,We want you to give him a vet check,We want YOU to get his feet done,And put shoes on,We want you to get a height certificate and we MUST use your gear".I said "Look Im sorry,I dont want to get your daughters hopes up and I think she is too big for him anyway".She says "No I think she would be alright".Then she said "By the way-I think a standardbred would be too much for you-It took me 9 years to get mine to be suitable for a beginner and I just think its too much for you-You havent had enough experience (I have had horses (2) and my dad had horses all his life) and those Adopt a Standardbreds can be brats (they arent) and they ALWAYS drop into pace they NEVER canter,Also-I want the tack when we borrow it to be fixed of any tackiness".And you know I was fricken blown away with what SHE wanted.I just got so fricken ****ed off she wanted to make me cry on the spot..And she wouldnt take NO for an answer!!She said something else about the standardbreds as well but i cant remember.happened to me-When I advertised him.
So thats my big story.This really hurt me.I thought they were my friends and then they went and did that.So yeah-My family is going to get a Standardbred from a place over here (Im in New Zealand) which saves standardbreds from going to dog tucker and break in the very quiet horses to sell as horses for beginners.Which i think is really nice and they are very resonable for their prices.($500 which is about 175 pounds).
Sorry for the EXTRA LONG post but i needed to tell everyone here.
Thanks

Emma G & Fred
New Zealand

[sally]

I read your reply to my saddle post and thank you
for responding, I actually have tried Wintec, but not
felt right. Ayy, your story is alarming! What a nervy
MUM!! And I am in the US and don't ususally use that word,
but a Bad Mum, she is! I hope your parents support you in
your dealings with this family and as far as I am concerned,
you have every right to select the home for your pony and you
don't have to sell to someone just because they want him!
It must be hard enough to separate from a beloved animal,
let alone worry about his welfare with some loudmouth
know it all MUM,let alone a tubby daughter. Lets not bust the
pony's back or spirit. And who says you must unload your tack!!! Yeeesh. Buck up girl, and tell the folks to hit the
trail. Sally

[Katie_85]

Amen to that! This "tubby" girl is probably not right for a 13hh pony. I am "tubby" myself, I would venture to say fat and the horses I ride are about 15-16hh tall I believe. The nerve of some people!!!

[Allie]

If you don't want these people to have your horse then don't sell her to them no matter how pushy they are. It is YOUR horse afterall. I have a friend who had to sell her Arab because she needed a higher quality one for shows, and she sold her to what seemed like a nice family, but went she went out to visit one day, they had the horse in a pasture with one other mare who was constantly picking on it, and the horse now had cuts and lumps all over it. She didn't really want to sell the horse in the first place, and she was very upset over this, even to the point that she was thinking about trying to get the horse back. Don't sell your horse to someone you are not happy with! And if you do decide (this doesn't sound likely though) to sell the horse to them, for heavens sake don't let them push you into loaning tack or getting extra work done that she doesn't currently have - horses are usualy sold as is!

Allie

[palomino22]

I just wanted to say that I thought Allie has given you some very good advice. I know from experience how you must feel. You think that someone is your friend and then you see the other side to them when they show their true colours. Definitely do not sell your pony to them. You know is best for him and if you think this family is not suitable for whatever reasons, then so be it.

I wish you all the luck in the world, hope that your arm has healed well, and that things turn out well, when you buy your new standardbred horse.

Please let us the outcome of this situation.

[cobbie2001]

HOW DID YOU BRAKE YOUR ARM ?? :)

[Hevz2001]

Please don't sell your horse to them, even if it means having a big argument about it, you have every right to choose where your horse goes, and if this 'tubby girl' grows anymore, heaven knows where it will be sent to next, just tell these people you've had a better offer or something and that you want to sell your horse to some1 else. These people probably don't know one end of the horse from the other!
i hope my advice has helped, sorry if it hasn't.
bye

[k9 Equine]

Calm down Emma. You don't have to sell your horse to anyone that you don't want to. Explain your reasons to M&D, I'm sure they will understand (and this person may have offended them too!)

The problem here is that you made the initial contact with these people and they apparently feel they are doing you some kind of favor taking the horse off your hands. Your post mentions a lot about trial runs and how the horse needs such and such before they will consent to borrow him (no mention of buying). Simply tell them you were so excited to find you would be moving up to bigger horse that you contacted them before you thought things through. While you are not sure what you will do with Fred he is NOT for sale at this time. When you are ready to let him go, place your adverts and make no mention to these people.

If they do run across your advert, I don't think they'll seriously consider him as they don't seem too interested now. Their requests for tack, farrier, vetting etc. seem pretty outrageous to me and like a goad to get you (and your parents) to say, forget it, don't buy him.

Just my opinion.

If they do inquire - put up some outrageous restrictions of your own - No you will not pay for vetting though they are welcome to have him vet checked AT THEIR EXPENSE, tack not included, two week test loan requires WRITTEN contract plus a $1,500 (don't have pound key on my PC) security deposit, etc.

Good luck w/your adoption!

~ KE

[Emma_G_NZ]

Hey this was AGES ago!!

[Hevz2001]

What did u do in the end?
did u sell ** pony?

[Emma_G_NZ]

Yes I did..And I adopted a Standardbred :)

[liz--y]

who did you sale him to

[Emma_G_NZ]

a nice family with 2 children learning to ride :)

[k9 Equine]

LOL Emma! Saw this post in current threads....didn't check dates :). Very happy to hear things worked out for you!

~ KE

[palomino22]

Me, too - I was wondering if the horrible people had managed to buy Fred or not!

[laurel]

horrible...HORRIBLE f***ed up people.
I hate people like that. Scuze me language!!HA!
Im nuts