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jenren!!
17th Feb 2006, 10:50 PM
I've owned a beautiful TBXWarmblood mare since September now, and we're coming on pretty well. Our jumping is coming on brilliantly, and iv managed to achieve a beautiful outline after just 4 months.

However she's not a mare to just click a finger and she'll do it. It takes alot of insisting and work to get her to do what you want. Getting her in a nice outline takes a good half hour because she's so argumentative about it, and if u ask her to do something she doesnt want to do, or go where she doesn't want to go, she retaliates. She's never done anything major, only lifting up on the odd occasion. For example, when i walk past the arena gate i keep my leg on her in advance to make sure she doesnt nap, and you can feel her trying to retaliate but on most occasions she does nothing but show her teeth. However if accidently left to her own devices she stops, and wont walk any other way than to the gate, and once she's been allowed to do it, there's a fair lot of bossing to make her go the right way, and in my situation, being a moderately nervous rider sometimes, i find it quite unsettling. I have learnt her ways enough now though to prepare for her actions, and mostly this does not happen because i tell her not to while she's still thinking about it.

I think it's all me. Im not a confident rider, however i have enough confidence to know that she is just being plain rude, and usually sort her out, however i often lack patience and find it unsettling to think that she did it afterwards. I am only just getting my confidence out hacking - hacking with my friend and building up gradually. I can now canter and trot out on a hack without problems, and she's brilliant on the roads, however if i try hacking on my own it would be a napping nightmare, as once i went on my own and she napped badly half way round, and at that point i did not have the confidence to deal with it, just simply turned her back.

Do you think i just need to be more determined with her? She is very mareish in character, and very grouchy on the ground, a challenge really. She is not strong, flighty or even like a thoroughbred really, she's really just a cob with attitude and im lucky to have such a challenging horse really, as i know she'll teach me alot, as she already has. Anyone got any logical idea on how i should manage this silly napping when she's in this mood? Judging my situation?

Thank you,

Jenny

iloveshearer
17th Feb 2006, 11:01 PM
it sounds like you are doing brilliantly with her so dont let the little things get to you! if she is moody maybe some of the supplements for moody mares would help?? try and show her who is boss! make sure she knows it and soon she will respect you more!! good luck with her!! keep up the good work!!! i know how moody mares can be i'v had my fair share of them, im just happy shearer's a gelding!

Smoore
17th Feb 2006, 11:03 PM
persevere and build both your confidences slowly.You seem to be handling her well so just keep the hacking short and build on it

Unbridled
18th Feb 2006, 12:36 AM
First off, don't do anything more than you're comfortable with doing. If you're nervous hacking alone then she'll sense that and be more apt to try and take the mickey out of you. I know this from experience as my own mare can be a bit nappy. If you're up to it, though, you might try just taking her out very briefly on your own and then turning her around before she has the opportunity to nap. Even if it's just a turn down the driveway, at least it would be showing her that you're making the decisions--I did this with my mare and it helped alot. Something else that works well is not driving her forward; when you drive her forward you give her an opportunity to argue. Instead, when she stops, just let her stop. Keep a loose rein on her and behave very nonchalant about her refusal to move...yawn and talk to her in a calm tone to let her know it's not a big deal. Don't let her back up and don't let her move to either side--if she tries put her into a one-rein stop. She's only allowed to move her legs if it is to go forward. Eventually, she will get bored and go forward. When she does, take her a comfortable distance and then turn her back before she naps again. Increase the length of the ride a little bit each time.

My horse can be bad about stopping and backing up, and if you start fighting with her she only gets worse. I tried all sorts of methods to manage the napping, but I found that this was the method that actually seemed to make the biggest difference. It isn't the quickest way, though, so be warned. The first time I stopped Sugar she actually stood there on the bridleway for half an hour. But the process was far less stressful on both of us, and when she finally did go forward we had a great ride. And the next ride when she napped she stood for a shorter period of time before going forward. We're still working on it, but she's made great progress and I think eventually she will stop altogether. :)

moli
18th Feb 2006, 11:35 AM
Oh my god Jenren I can't believe you posted this! Read my post please help with mare, I posted yesterday as well. I am at my wits end and feel like giving up riding completely. I am so desperate that my horse had a 'telephone conversation' with a horse psychic this morning! I am not sure if I believe it or not but she did point out that my mare is in pain at her hock and that I should get her back checked. Now she was on box rest with a hock injury in October last year but she was declared sound by vet and I have been working her since then. She is also absolutely fine when out hacking and will canter and gallop quite happily.

I am also not the most confident rider and can't help feeling like there is an element of her taking the mickey out of me. I don't grudge the money but I am a student nurse and I am now faced with getting vet, back man or whoever to give her the once over.

How old is your mare?

jenren!!
18th Feb 2006, 10:22 PM
she's only seven, and i havent had her long...possibly just a testing stage she's going through? will read ** post in a min!

Jenny

jenren!!
18th Feb 2006, 10:26 PM
you know it's strange because aramis was on box rest before i bought her as well, with a ligament injury, and as soon as i started riding her she was only just coming back into work. What a similar situation we have!! Iv got a lesson tomorrow on flatwork so will see what happens!

Jenny

moli
19th Feb 2006, 01:23 PM
How did your lesson go? Was she good?

jenren!!
21st Feb 2006, 02:52 PM
Unfortunately her shoe was badly hanging off on the day of my lesson so i had to cancel it, even though my friend expertly pulled it off for me. However, she goes a little footsore without a shoe so i didnt want to risk it. I have another lesson on thursday - will let you know how it goes!!

Jenny