Confused about selling

[sapphi&Poppy]

I'm selling my horse because We just don't get along and she is a very forward horse. But some days She's a perfect angel but another day she's a complete witch and I'm a bit afriad. I was reading something that u should be having fun with the horse and I'm not. I don't know if I shohld sell her or not. When I go look at a horse what should I look for as a local show hunter that I can show this summer with my friends( Aston87). I'm sota a timid rider. What should I think when I'm riding him, that sorta thing. Thanks for any advice

[Bootyfulcobs]

personally, if you're a timid person, i think it would be best to perhaps to sell the horse so someone who has the confidence can bring the horse on and you could then perhaps go to a riding school, and build up our confidence there - learn to have fun.

At a riding school there are obvious pros:
there are people around who can help you out if you're incertain of what you're doing
you can ask!!!
you can have fun and at the end of the day you dont have the commitment that you do with owning.

HOWEVER.
you could enlist the help of an experienced horse person to help train some manners to your horse and bring her on - i found a good quote in horse and rider magazine 2 day:

'Try to work with your nerves rather than against them. if you feel nervous, it is an indication that you are not ready to move on - ie. progress. This is where a good instructor is so useful as they can tell you when your nerves are blocking you from taking the next step...somebody telling you what to do is better than telling yourself not to panic...'

and that is soooo true - haing someone to help you along gives u heaps of confidence :)

You have to be confident around her, and be consistent in how you treat her so she knows how you react in certain situations and that you won't stand for silly behaviour. Think of it in horse terms: it's better from the horses point of view to have a partnership with you - they want to trust you, but if your body langusge (for arguments sake) is cautios incase something happens she wont want to trust you... it's a tough one - i personally would see it as a challenge ahh they're the best and try my hand at Pareeli, clicker training or join up:) they can involve games like you heard of and this will help to build a trusting relationship - it just takes time and patience and a little research into how to do it i guess... :)

[Wally]

Best thing I ever did, and I'm a fearless rider. I sold him as we didn't get on. He has gone to a home who do see eye to eye with him. I bought a horse who had a terrible reputation, but I and he clicked and get on. Find a soul mate and enjoy your riding.

[Ozzie_Yarrah]

dont worry i had the same problem i hate my horse but we still own her a girl is leasing her she is more of a girls hore i am a male if you have not figured it out and i will be selling her when you go to buy a horse my advice is to take somebody that nows alot about horses and when you ride the horse you should fell relaxed and not tight and nerves


hope it helped

JOSH

[ashesscott]

I was in the same situation and I kept trying for nine months but it was getting to the stage where I was hoping it would rain so I didn't have to ride! I sold her to a very bold rider who loves her to bits.
I bought myself a very kind youngster and I really look forward to riding now - she is wonderful and very quick to learn

Hope it works out for you

[Speedy]

I had a TB gelding on loan that I got more and more afraid of and dreaded riding him. Then I went to see Ulla - the first time I sat on her, I fell in love with her. She was such fun! She has her mad moments and there are times that I have to limit what I want to do because she's gone loopy, but basically I love riding her and we understand each other. I can read her like a book and I know when she's going to be stupid and alter the ride to accomodate this.

If you aren't having fun on your horse then sell her to someone else and buy yourself a horse that makes riding fun again. When you find the horse that you click with, there'll be no turning back.

[lamprellsarah]

me too best thing i did, i was sooo scared to ride my 5 yr old, that i would be in tears after every ride, i damaged my back, and he would charge though fences, rear, buck bomb.
i was so relieved he is doing well now although the same manic, he has got a more confident rider, and i am soo happy plodding around on my safe sensible mare!!!