kinda in a bind!

[jUmPingIsLifE]

well its not really my buisness but they are really close to me so i kinda worry....anyway teh people that sold Tonka have replaced him with a QH like they said. only they bought one from this guy who has like 15 horses in a field they get the vet and farrier and hay but are NEVER used other than that....he has this idea in his head he is going to train it himselft without help...I have seen him ride and he is a Beginner rider....well maybe an intermediate he can handle a horse but i don't think he has the experiance, and seat, and all that to train a horse from scratch! the only horses he has ever had are WELL trained "perfect" horses. The horse seems sweet and all but i havn't worked with her and stuff...i kida worry this guy is kinda overweight and kinda old and i have seen him fall off and put his horse up for the next couple of weeks without riding it...i have seen him jump off because the horse gets fast, and they are family friends and the horse is a good horse with right training. i don't really know how to approch him and say "maybe you want to consider hiring a trainer" or something like that.
If he asks me to do it i don't think i will because although i have trained horses i have ONLY done it under supervision of a VERY experianced person whome was telling me what to do and how to handle everything and i know i am not experianced enough to do it by myself. ...how do i approach them and express how i fell, he really has his heart set on training this horse by himselft, thanks you guys :)

[Mehitabel]

that's a tough one! i don't envy you at all. perhaps steer the conversation round to the fact that you have lessons, ask if they've decided yet where or with whom they're going to be taught and act very surprised if they say they aren't. it's really good that you're concerned, and that you realise you aren't experienced enough to take it on alone. hope you manage to sort something out.

[Dizzy]

It is a tricky situation, but if I were you, I'd tell the truth. Take a deep breath, and blurt it out.

Say something like' please don't take this the wrong way, but even people who ride for the olympics have regular lessons'.

Don't let him make you feel embarrassed about something that you know is right. You don't need to be offensive to speak your mind, be tactful, but firm.

Don't envy you, good luck,

Lesley

[lamprellsarah]

i think maybe you should just go for it!
Ok so you may put your foot in it, but if he does listen then the horse is better off because of it, and if he doesn't listen then thats no different from where u started anyway!!
and then at least you have tried!!

[LindaAd]

I'd start off by saying: How are you getting along with your horse? or something like that, and then if he says he has problems, you cna recommend your instructor, or whatever. If he think he's fine, I don't think there's much you can do, except perhaps sugget he might be better if ...