PROBLEM SOLVED!!!!!!!!!
I just made a nice long 2 hour drive to my nearest horsey shop and came back a happy girl! its a good shop but expesnive ...due to its clientel...sells second hand items too so i managed to get rid of some of my old riding gear that is still in good nick...that i have simply grown out of, that have been lurking in my wardrobe for the past 8yrs...
and i came home with a neat long water proof riding jacket that was in the sales...its not wax....it some other waterproof material with all the storm flaps etc...and it cost me only £30!!!! and my problem with chaps was solved..my grandparents bought me a nice buck suede boot cut pair as a birthday present.

thanx for you help though! i believe im sorted for the rest of my life