Thank you everyone for your advice and words of support, they really do help. Lots of things that have been suggested I have tried before but to no avail. KP nut, I hear what you are saying, but my brain doesn't view 'controlled' people or objects in the same way. It is the unpredictable things which worry me. If I am hacking over the fields and I see someone I know with their dogs I am fine, it is when I see a stranger I panic.
I had a chat with my yard manager this morning and I think that it is time for me to just get on with it, feel the fear, face the panic and then come out of it the other side.
I have a plan. On Monday morning at 9:30am three of us are setting off on our hack. I am going to go in the middle with my yard manager in front and a groom behind. We are going to go off site, over the road and ride to a river where I am going to take Ben for a splash around. This is the goal of the trip - to play in the river as part of our TREC and XC training. It is about a 30 minute walk I think but we will put in a few trots and so the whole thing should take less than an hour.
I am going to ride Ben in the school first and do about 15 minutes of trot/canter work before we go. I am going to kit myself out in all my high vis gear that I have never worn and we will cross that bloody road.
If I hate every second of it and if I have a full blown panic I will be able to make the decision to give up off site hacking completely knowing that I have given it my best shot. But I am strangely excited about reaching that river. I can do and I will do it! I will report back on Monday!
Thank you again for all the help. I feel I have the whole of NewRider behind me. Watch this space, we WILL be doing sponsored rides this time next year.
I had a chat with my yard manager this morning and I think that it is time for me to just get on with it, feel the fear, face the panic and then come out of it the other side.
I have a plan. On Monday morning at 9:30am three of us are setting off on our hack. I am going to go in the middle with my yard manager in front and a groom behind. We are going to go off site, over the road and ride to a river where I am going to take Ben for a splash around. This is the goal of the trip - to play in the river as part of our TREC and XC training. It is about a 30 minute walk I think but we will put in a few trots and so the whole thing should take less than an hour.
I am going to ride Ben in the school first and do about 15 minutes of trot/canter work before we go. I am going to kit myself out in all my high vis gear that I have never worn and we will cross that bloody road.
If I hate every second of it and if I have a full blown panic I will be able to make the decision to give up off site hacking completely knowing that I have given it my best shot. But I am strangely excited about reaching that river. I can do and I will do it! I will report back on Monday!
Thank you again for all the help. I feel I have the whole of NewRider behind me. Watch this space, we WILL be doing sponsored rides this time next year.