Agree with idea of standing martingale - though I'm wondering why your martingale didn't work - is it too long - or did you drop your hands - running martingales work best in this situation if you lift your hands - they then act as a pulley!!
(cvb - this is from experience!! Remember those gallops??)
Please don't take on the idea of draw reins - IMHO there is never a reason for riding with them.
On the side reins and ponies thing - I have used them for ponies - they look like they are holding the ponies head in - but they are an attempt to stop the pony eating grass. Have to say it doesn't always work - my wee pony is so determined she will pull the saddle and child over her withers in order to get grass (she is laminitis prone and flat backed!!!)
Hope you can get it all together - I'd also add that when you are able relax a bit, then the problem may calm down - these things can become a horse/rider mutual tension problem but don't ask me how to solve that one....... (thinking here ...could be why he is going well in side reins - cos you believe in them.....???)
(cvb - this is from experience!! Remember those gallops??)
Please don't take on the idea of draw reins - IMHO there is never a reason for riding with them.
On the side reins and ponies thing - I have used them for ponies - they look like they are holding the ponies head in - but they are an attempt to stop the pony eating grass. Have to say it doesn't always work - my wee pony is so determined she will pull the saddle and child over her withers in order to get grass (she is laminitis prone and flat backed!!!)
Hope you can get it all together - I'd also add that when you are able relax a bit, then the problem may calm down - these things can become a horse/rider mutual tension problem but don't ask me how to solve that one....... (thinking here ...could be why he is going well in side reins - cos you believe in them.....???)