Today I am going up to my sisters house for tea, picking my parents up en route and all arriving together. For the last few years, it's been a tradition that I would cook for my parents on New Years day, as they'd have been working all day and my sister and family live about eighty miles away and generally had New Years day on their own.
This time round, my parents are now retired and have moved closer to my sister, and further away from me, but I still offered the same cooking arrangement assuming my sister was doing her own thing as usual. Then my sister messaged saying she was now inviting us all to dinner and would that be ok.
I stupidly assumed that since she knew I was cooking for parents (my mum must have told her) I also assumed she'd know what sort of time I was expecting to arrive at.
She has just text me to ask if I'm on my way yet. I said no, I have to feed the horses first and the very earliest I would even consider doing that is four pm (and only because the weather is very mild otherwise it would be later). She text back saying she'd misunderstood and assumed I was coming up earlier.
I suggested if this was going to make things too late (she has young children) then she should just go ahead and I won't bother, but I got the normal 'no that's fine' response.
It just frustrates me. I have owned a horse for five years. Folk know how important he is to me. But I'm always met with rolling eyes or sarky comments over the fact that I have to work my schedule around feeding and checking on him.
'Do you have to check on him everyday?' Grrrrrr. Really?! Do you have to check your children every day? 'cant you just get someone else to feed or check him?'
Yes, I could. But he's my responsibility and I choose not to constantly ask others to see to my horse. I would rather save those sorts of requests for times when I really need the help - like when I have to work away, emergencies, etc.
Anyway, sorry, I am just a bit put out that my choices are not respected by other folk around me. My sister is fab and I'm not slagging her off at all, it's just disappointing. Anyone else experience this with their family and friends.
This time round, my parents are now retired and have moved closer to my sister, and further away from me, but I still offered the same cooking arrangement assuming my sister was doing her own thing as usual. Then my sister messaged saying she was now inviting us all to dinner and would that be ok.
I stupidly assumed that since she knew I was cooking for parents (my mum must have told her) I also assumed she'd know what sort of time I was expecting to arrive at.
She has just text me to ask if I'm on my way yet. I said no, I have to feed the horses first and the very earliest I would even consider doing that is four pm (and only because the weather is very mild otherwise it would be later). She text back saying she'd misunderstood and assumed I was coming up earlier.
I suggested if this was going to make things too late (she has young children) then she should just go ahead and I won't bother, but I got the normal 'no that's fine' response.
It just frustrates me. I have owned a horse for five years. Folk know how important he is to me. But I'm always met with rolling eyes or sarky comments over the fact that I have to work my schedule around feeding and checking on him.
'Do you have to check on him everyday?' Grrrrrr. Really?! Do you have to check your children every day? 'cant you just get someone else to feed or check him?'
Yes, I could. But he's my responsibility and I choose not to constantly ask others to see to my horse. I would rather save those sorts of requests for times when I really need the help - like when I have to work away, emergencies, etc.
Anyway, sorry, I am just a bit put out that my choices are not respected by other folk around me. My sister is fab and I'm not slagging her off at all, it's just disappointing. Anyone else experience this with their family and friends.