When I say she'll go further than me I mean that in the jumping/cross country sense. I've reached the point in my life where I know there will come a point whereby I don't want to jump any higher. Flatwork and dressage will have no limit from me.And if you think she may go further than you that also could mean you are not 100% confident of yourself when around her and the fellowship which comes from bonding isnt there.
I mean that the horses I have felt a bond with have always made me feel good about myself. Not in doubt and if I was in doubt i would ask on NR, as you have done.
She does make me feel good about my riding ability as everytime I ride her I learn & improve. I think its basically that she's not affectionate