You don't need to "pull yourself together" It's a bereavement, it's a bloody big smack in the teeth for you. You are entitled to feel like that. No pulling yourself together needed. Be kind to yourself, and don't set goals that others expect of you, it's ok to be in a complete heap.Feeling very low today. I can't put my mind to anything. I know it'll get easier, but much as I adore Hogan, I can't really pay him much attention just now, even though I'm so glad I have him. If I didn't, I think this sadness would spiral into depression. It rained last night, and for a split second I found myself thinking I should have put Ramseys rug on. I'll pull myself together soon.