You have been extremely rude to KP and other serious horse- people here, myself included. You dont read the posts nor provide the information people are asking you for.
What strikes me is that you see this as personal. It isnt. It is all about horse psychology. May be you have managed till now without a detailed understanding of how horses learn behaviours and how they can be trained to behave differently. People like KP and me who have brought up children, or people who have trained dogs, have some understanding of what is loosely known as behaviourism - There is a good explanation of how Behaviourism can be applied to horse training in the book Perfect Manners by Kelly Marks. The sub title is How to behave so your horse does too -
Kely Marks is a student and associate of Monty Roberts the celebrated American Horse trainer and tho neither KP nor I are ardent followers of his methods, one can learn a lot from watching a whole range of people who handle and correct horses with behaviour that is dangerous. If you are in the UK . Kelly Marks 0prganisation Intelligent Horsemanship (IH) has many local advisers who will come out and help people wit their horses, particularly with leading problems which you seem to have had.
Now I will get personal. Because although one can say that the bad or unhappy reaction of a horse is not personal, they do behave differently with different people. Again no criticism of yourself. But a dear friend of mine had problems with a horse she intended to compete - sent him to a trainer at a competition yard. The young horse returned apprarently sorted out and the first ride, he had his owner off - The trainer liked him so much he took the horse back and into his yard for possible sale.
So there is an example of one rider who didnt get on with a horse that she dearly loved and in the end preferred to let him have a happy existence with other riders.
I and my friends have answered you with courtesy. However, I do not actually believe this thread is genuine because vital information has been with held and none of the questions people have asked about you and your horse have been answered. You have read so fast and carelessly that you misread my own questions. I did not say you used your horse to show off. I asked you to list the things you wanted to do with your horse in future. You have provided none of the information any of us asked you for. So it has been a waste of time our writing.
There is not enough basic understanding of horse behaviour here to convince me that you have the equestrian experience you claim.
However, I can only repeat: I have never been to a yard where a horse was shot, unless on medical grounds. The first step is always to turn to a professional and your arguments against doing that suggest that you have no idea how to choose a professional nor how they work with problem horses. We have tried to explain that to you. You seem to be hinting at some points that you yourself are a trainer of problem horses and have fun with them. Well one expert can ask the help of another trainer if they are stuck.
Your answer seems to be that you are too poor to pay a trainer or too remote - or both. To that there is no easy answer. Keeping a horse is an expensive hobby - But distance is not a problem. The horses who go for training from our local yards are boxed up and driven to the trainers own yard.
There is another thing that happens on the net - Someone posts questions and then turns down every suggestion they are given. You seem to fall into that pattern and then blame people who have replied to you. I can assure you that I myself came to NR years ago - in great trouble and that I was helped by good and careful people some of whom have given their time to try and help you.
You conclude by saying that tho local trainers have declined to help you, a non horsey friend has been brilliant and you are about to hack happilly once more on a horse whom your initial description made to sound truly dangerous, indeed so dangerous that a professional could not ride him and you had been told to have him shot.
If you are happy to ride this horse that is fine. It is your own decision. It is your horse and you can do as you like. (Unless you are a teenager on school holiday which may well be the case.) But please note that none of your posts indicated that the horse was safe for you to ride. We on New Rider forum set a priority on safety.
We are all volunteers. All we do is read the text typed in here. And wait for the OP to read the responses and provide more information.
Sometimes we can help and sometimes not - but whatever the case, at least you should have the courtesy to be grateful instead of going off the deep end about how horrible we all are. It doesnt matter what you do in life, whether is is cooking from a recipe, or riding, or learning to ride a bike, if something isnt working (as per you and the horse) one needs to change something. If one continues as before one is always likely to get the same results. Changing the behaviour of any horse always involves asking why it is behaving that way and trying something a tiny bit different -
So yes it does mean looking at your own strategies - and the sensible reaction is not to get defensive - these are not your personal failings. But if you want to change something in the habitual behaviour of your horse, you need to change something in your behaviour too. If you ride him in exactly the same way, on the same diet and in the same tack, he is quite likely to bolt for home again. What is going to stop him? Just look at your language.
"take a pull", "fly bucks" Fly bucks while going fast? That isnt my experience of a bolting horse.
"we jumped the gate into the yard." We? Or did he jump in spite of your attempts to stop or turn him? What did you do to stop or slow him by the way? When he gallops for home how far away does he start?
45 minutes to fail to teach your own dearly loved horse to lead properly? Just one lesson in leading and ground work should have got that sorted years ago. BHS Stage 1.
And there are things that dont make sense in your later posts like keeping in touch with the owners. What owners?
And why did your local trainers say they could not help? No details given.
Jump back on your horse for a lovely hack on a lovely loose rein since that is apparently how you choose to ride but no one on NR is going to believe that you didnt get the best advice here.
