Background
It's not just a case of hating it, I won't do it at all (I have tried to do 5-10 mins in the riding paddock when nobody's about but find reasons not to) and it is impacting on Joy because she needs to be schooled, as do I! She's a great fun hack though, as am I!
I started learning to ride as a 7 year old child out on hacks round my local town. It wasn't a proper riding school and there was a big gap in my knowledge of technical side of riding and doing anything other than hacking which included galloping and jumping where possible (as you do when you are young!) and coping with hacking in every situation a town can throw at you.
Up until yesterday I thought that the only formal lessons I'd had were as an adult returning to riding, I now know this isn't the case. I'd always thought that I'd NEVER had a group lesson and that any formal lessons were only as an adult returning to riding and been private because of me being self concious about my weight but this isn't the case either (although it doesn't help).
The reason
The night before last I had a dream. In it I relived a formal group lesson I'd had at a riding school as a PE option when I was 15 and at senior school. That's where the problem came...
Before my first lesson I was watching the end of the lesson before mine. I was told horse I was going to be riding and he was in that lesson. He was very hot and sweaty and obviously unhappy having been used for an hour already and the riding kept smacking him with the whip to push him on. I was just about to ride him for my hour lesson. I found out he was called Selwyn and that he was 28
I had never needed to use a stick before as the ponies I'd ridden were all rather forward and enjoyed hacking and the rider was using the whip a lot. This was to be my first 'proper' lesson in a school which was nerve raking enough in itself, it was with people from my school that knew me and it was to be on an unhappy looking 28 year old horse that had already been worked for an hour and was being whipped a lot
I felt sorry for him. It didn't feel right to be pushing on an oldie that had already been worked for an hour and I didn't want to use my whip like the first rider had because he wasn't being naughty he was tired so it was a punishment. Obviously he sensed my reluctance and he didn't want to work hard anymore and so didn't and plodded like a donkey. I kept getting told to hit him but didn't want to push him on and so we went round slowly which obviously disrupted the lesson, I can understand the fraustration of the RI.
The instructor accusingly shouted out in front of all my friends that she thought I said I could ride? I was mortified and she told me to bring him to the middle and made us stand there for the whole lesson whilst the others rode round us. I never went again as I felt humiliated. So much so I'd actually blocked out that 1 lesson and only remembered it a couple of nights back in my dream.
This also explains my long break from horses as that was the last time I'd rode regularly too. I'd always thought I'd given up because life got in the way. Since then until my full return to regular riding 17 years later I'd only hacked out occasionally on special occasions
Returning to riding at the age of 32 meant I had to have lessons but all of them have been private ones and anytime there was a spectator hanging about I couldn't concentrate and never relaxed. When I bought Joy I stopped having lessons appart from a block of 5 on a schoolmaster to get me through a crisis of confidence and proove that I actually could ride well and was prefectly capable of being a good owner.
So that's it. That's the reason I gave up in my teens and now don't ride or feel safe in enclosed areas. It's why I'm so self concious when riding, why I like horses you have stop rather than start and my dislike of whips. It explains my aversion to the 'horsey set' and not wanting to be on a livery yard. Lastly it explains my preference to ride alone.
I can't believe that I had blocked all of that out for 20 years and just how the effects of that one lesson has changed me in so many ways
It's not just a case of hating it, I won't do it at all (I have tried to do 5-10 mins in the riding paddock when nobody's about but find reasons not to) and it is impacting on Joy because she needs to be schooled, as do I! She's a great fun hack though, as am I!
I started learning to ride as a 7 year old child out on hacks round my local town. It wasn't a proper riding school and there was a big gap in my knowledge of technical side of riding and doing anything other than hacking which included galloping and jumping where possible (as you do when you are young!) and coping with hacking in every situation a town can throw at you.
Up until yesterday I thought that the only formal lessons I'd had were as an adult returning to riding, I now know this isn't the case. I'd always thought that I'd NEVER had a group lesson and that any formal lessons were only as an adult returning to riding and been private because of me being self concious about my weight but this isn't the case either (although it doesn't help).
The reason
The night before last I had a dream. In it I relived a formal group lesson I'd had at a riding school as a PE option when I was 15 and at senior school. That's where the problem came...
Before my first lesson I was watching the end of the lesson before mine. I was told horse I was going to be riding and he was in that lesson. He was very hot and sweaty and obviously unhappy having been used for an hour already and the riding kept smacking him with the whip to push him on. I was just about to ride him for my hour lesson. I found out he was called Selwyn and that he was 28
I had never needed to use a stick before as the ponies I'd ridden were all rather forward and enjoyed hacking and the rider was using the whip a lot. This was to be my first 'proper' lesson in a school which was nerve raking enough in itself, it was with people from my school that knew me and it was to be on an unhappy looking 28 year old horse that had already been worked for an hour and was being whipped a lot
I felt sorry for him. It didn't feel right to be pushing on an oldie that had already been worked for an hour and I didn't want to use my whip like the first rider had because he wasn't being naughty he was tired so it was a punishment. Obviously he sensed my reluctance and he didn't want to work hard anymore and so didn't and plodded like a donkey. I kept getting told to hit him but didn't want to push him on and so we went round slowly which obviously disrupted the lesson, I can understand the fraustration of the RI.
The instructor accusingly shouted out in front of all my friends that she thought I said I could ride? I was mortified and she told me to bring him to the middle and made us stand there for the whole lesson whilst the others rode round us. I never went again as I felt humiliated. So much so I'd actually blocked out that 1 lesson and only remembered it a couple of nights back in my dream.
This also explains my long break from horses as that was the last time I'd rode regularly too. I'd always thought I'd given up because life got in the way. Since then until my full return to regular riding 17 years later I'd only hacked out occasionally on special occasions
Returning to riding at the age of 32 meant I had to have lessons but all of them have been private ones and anytime there was a spectator hanging about I couldn't concentrate and never relaxed. When I bought Joy I stopped having lessons appart from a block of 5 on a schoolmaster to get me through a crisis of confidence and proove that I actually could ride well and was prefectly capable of being a good owner.
So that's it. That's the reason I gave up in my teens and now don't ride or feel safe in enclosed areas. It's why I'm so self concious when riding, why I like horses you have stop rather than start and my dislike of whips. It explains my aversion to the 'horsey set' and not wanting to be on a livery yard. Lastly it explains my preference to ride alone.
I can't believe that I had blocked all of that out for 20 years and just how the effects of that one lesson has changed me in so many ways
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