Hmmm, given that people are more worried about others being touchy, rather than the fact that there are comments that have genuinely hurt people, I think that says enough.
Whether I'd meant something as a joke or not, I'd hate to think that I'd really upset somebody on a subject sensitive to them no matter if the vast majority didn't see it as an issue.
I remember once making a throw away comment on a forum about giving my hubby a slap. It was meant in a jokey way and anyone who knows us would know that. However, I got a PM from someone who was clearly very distressed by my comment and as the victim of domestic abuse she didn't think it was a subject to joke about. I didn't get all upset and offended and turn it into an attack on my freedom of speech. I apologised. I could see that the person had been affected by my comment despite it not being intended in that way. I don't see what the big deal is with understanding that people aren't being touchy for the sake of it or simply to pick a fight. Comments can cut to the core and for people like me, the fight goes and you give up but the pain remains.
There have been numerous diet threads on NR since New Year. Many people who have started healthy eating with the intention of ditching their weight. I haven't seen that many posts where this goes entirely to plan and often people give up. Plus there are others for whom its not just a few lbs, we know we have to do something or we'll be at high risk of reduced quality of life, health issues and early death. That may sound overly dramatic to those who don't understand but its something I've had to live with all my adult life it's hard to wear my failures do publicly and feel so degraded because it's common to hear others making nasty comments in earshot.
Now, I would hope that I might have been able to help people see things from another perspective. Whether the comment was meant in the way it was received or not, what's most telling is the lack of concern for those who really have been hurt. I can accept that I'm touchy about my weight because it's serious and impacts on mine and my families lives. I can also accept that comments aren't always meant as I might take them which is why i made use of my ignore options, left the thread and didn't add to it. What I find most disturbing is a lack of human empathy on this thread and the lack of consideration for the feelings of others. Having really upset someone myself in the past, it was no big deal to me to not get uptight and to smooth the waters.