Hi guys,
This is a very strange thread to start because I'm actually in a really good mood, but somehow feel it would be good to get a few things off my chest to some faceless people! Sorry, this might be a ramble
I'm 21 and I've never had a 'proper' relationship. I have a close circle of girlie friends from school, and a close bunch of girls at Uni (and some unavailable blokes), so I'm never short of people around me, and when I'm happy I can be pretty sociable.
But I go through spells of 'sadness' (not gonna say the big 'D' word, because I don't think I'm depressed). I also have a very strange 'intermittent' shyness that I can never shake off, then sometimes I just snap out of being shy. It's very strange!
I fell for one of my best mates in first year and we spent the whole year dithering around, and then finally hooked up for a few weeks. But then he f***ed off with an ex-girlfriend, and actually hurt me more than I realised. Oh, and I lost my virginity to him, which hacked me off pretty well .
At school I pulled a few blokes in clubs and things, but never had a boyfriend then.
Also, I have loads of great male role models in the family, I'm close to my parents and my brother, and uncles etc! So most guys (poor things) have a lot to live up to.
Oh, I went on a couple of dates with this fella over the summer, we really hit it off, but I don't know how to take it to the next stage. We saw each other at Christmas and I could almost feel myself backing off and getting less interested. It's pathetic.
But I have had 'male' encounters, I'm starting to think I'm so used to being single, I get scared if things could progress.
Now I've come to a very strange point in my life. On one hand I have emotionally given up, which means I don't try at all around the opposite sex, and I'm preparing to be an old spinster with lots of cats. This is kind of nice and calming! But fills me with a lot of sadness.
But on the other hand I feel I should be making more of an effort to go and find someone...
Has anyone been through the same sort of thing? How did you all meet the people you are with? When were your first serious relationships? Please be honest, I could do with people telling me they didn't meet thier OH until they were in thier 30s (which gives me plenty of time!!!). Also it would help to hear that other people were late starters!!!
Don't tell me to wait and see 'Mr Right' (ironic really, as my surname is Wright ) is round the corner! I'm tired of people telling me that! Bit of reassurrance please!
xx
This is a very strange thread to start because I'm actually in a really good mood, but somehow feel it would be good to get a few things off my chest to some faceless people! Sorry, this might be a ramble
I'm 21 and I've never had a 'proper' relationship. I have a close circle of girlie friends from school, and a close bunch of girls at Uni (and some unavailable blokes), so I'm never short of people around me, and when I'm happy I can be pretty sociable.
But I go through spells of 'sadness' (not gonna say the big 'D' word, because I don't think I'm depressed). I also have a very strange 'intermittent' shyness that I can never shake off, then sometimes I just snap out of being shy. It's very strange!
I fell for one of my best mates in first year and we spent the whole year dithering around, and then finally hooked up for a few weeks. But then he f***ed off with an ex-girlfriend, and actually hurt me more than I realised. Oh, and I lost my virginity to him, which hacked me off pretty well .
At school I pulled a few blokes in clubs and things, but never had a boyfriend then.
Also, I have loads of great male role models in the family, I'm close to my parents and my brother, and uncles etc! So most guys (poor things) have a lot to live up to.
Oh, I went on a couple of dates with this fella over the summer, we really hit it off, but I don't know how to take it to the next stage. We saw each other at Christmas and I could almost feel myself backing off and getting less interested. It's pathetic.
But I have had 'male' encounters, I'm starting to think I'm so used to being single, I get scared if things could progress.
Now I've come to a very strange point in my life. On one hand I have emotionally given up, which means I don't try at all around the opposite sex, and I'm preparing to be an old spinster with lots of cats. This is kind of nice and calming! But fills me with a lot of sadness.
But on the other hand I feel I should be making more of an effort to go and find someone...
Has anyone been through the same sort of thing? How did you all meet the people you are with? When were your first serious relationships? Please be honest, I could do with people telling me they didn't meet thier OH until they were in thier 30s (which gives me plenty of time!!!). Also it would help to hear that other people were late starters!!!
Don't tell me to wait and see 'Mr Right' (ironic really, as my surname is Wright ) is round the corner! I'm tired of people telling me that! Bit of reassurrance please!
xx