Have you always been nervous? If not, is there one thing that happened that shattered your confidence or was it a built-up of things? I'm interested to know...
This is my story....
I came back to riding in 2005 after a 21 year break. I'd had 3 kids and was 42 by then so naturally I was a little more cautious than I had been before I took the break! However, I swiftly bought a bombproof-but-forward-going cob mare and my confidence was sky-high with her. The only thing I wibbled about was jumping but as Cherry had blown a tendon it wasn't something we did a lot of. But we did do some poles in the school and even entered a jumping class at a local show! Once.
Then I progressed onto ex-racer Roo and gradually my confidence disintegrated. Don't know why as Roo was a perfect gentleman on the ground and on board but something just faded and died over time. The final straw was me attempting a stupid little jump in May of last year which resulted in me falling off. As I hit the ground, the remains of my fragile confidence shattered into a million pieces. I still wanted to ride, just not Roo, and I said I would never, EVER, jump again. Just watching other people now puts fear in my belly.
With hindsight, I should never have parted with Cherry... but there you go, decisions are made and we have to live with the consquences of our actions. The ladies that loaned her from me for a year, bought her and worship the ground she walks on so there is no hope of her ever returning. She has a home for life with them... and it's a brilliant one at that. I'm happy for her.
I'm an assertive owner. I'm great with them on the ground, I set boundaries and I expect manners. I don't allow them to push me around or take liberties, but put me in the saddle and I turn to jelly.
Fast forward to this spring and Roo went off on loan and has now been bought by a lovely lady. Very un-planned, we found ourselves owners of Jack a mere 5 days later. I wanted a short, fat, hairy and got a skinny 16hh Clydie cross who has "issues". Nevertheless, for the first time ever, my other-half fell in love with a horse and so Jack rapidly seems to be becoming his horse. I've had some lessons on Jack but now I haven't ridden him for over a month :redface: And thus, the nerves are back. I've now realised it's a size issue. Roo was 16.2 and Jack is around 16hh. I want a small one. I want one where I'm not so high up. This was proved at the weekend. I went to an annual horsey meet-up which is lot of the old NR "matures" - back in the day we got fed up with the original NR format of only being able to post horse-related threads only so we set up our own little forum which still runs. We're all very close and a lot of us see each other regularly IRL. So we have the annual camp/BBQ at Bourton Vale Equitation Centre... it's fab.
On Sunday morning, very low key, I hopped on a little 14 hander patchy-pony mare and walked, trotted and cantered with no qualms. Then.... I popped her over a small jump Yes... ME!!! I dismounted and was shaking like a leaf but I bloody DID it and I'm so proud of myself!! What is HAS done is reinforce that little ones are the way to go for me. Pony-squishing is what I want to to and that's why we now have Arthur. The Comtois are known for their placid nature and Arthur is currently 14.2 or 3 (to be measured) - he's going to be my riding boy.... and Albi is going to be my driving boy....
And hopefully my confidence will start to re-build... brick by brick....
(PS I know we will have baby wibbles as they are young but I feel far more able to cope with the shorter ones having a strop!!! :giggle
This is my story....
I came back to riding in 2005 after a 21 year break. I'd had 3 kids and was 42 by then so naturally I was a little more cautious than I had been before I took the break! However, I swiftly bought a bombproof-but-forward-going cob mare and my confidence was sky-high with her. The only thing I wibbled about was jumping but as Cherry had blown a tendon it wasn't something we did a lot of. But we did do some poles in the school and even entered a jumping class at a local show! Once.
Then I progressed onto ex-racer Roo and gradually my confidence disintegrated. Don't know why as Roo was a perfect gentleman on the ground and on board but something just faded and died over time. The final straw was me attempting a stupid little jump in May of last year which resulted in me falling off. As I hit the ground, the remains of my fragile confidence shattered into a million pieces. I still wanted to ride, just not Roo, and I said I would never, EVER, jump again. Just watching other people now puts fear in my belly.
With hindsight, I should never have parted with Cherry... but there you go, decisions are made and we have to live with the consquences of our actions. The ladies that loaned her from me for a year, bought her and worship the ground she walks on so there is no hope of her ever returning. She has a home for life with them... and it's a brilliant one at that. I'm happy for her.
I'm an assertive owner. I'm great with them on the ground, I set boundaries and I expect manners. I don't allow them to push me around or take liberties, but put me in the saddle and I turn to jelly.
Fast forward to this spring and Roo went off on loan and has now been bought by a lovely lady. Very un-planned, we found ourselves owners of Jack a mere 5 days later. I wanted a short, fat, hairy and got a skinny 16hh Clydie cross who has "issues". Nevertheless, for the first time ever, my other-half fell in love with a horse and so Jack rapidly seems to be becoming his horse. I've had some lessons on Jack but now I haven't ridden him for over a month :redface: And thus, the nerves are back. I've now realised it's a size issue. Roo was 16.2 and Jack is around 16hh. I want a small one. I want one where I'm not so high up. This was proved at the weekend. I went to an annual horsey meet-up which is lot of the old NR "matures" - back in the day we got fed up with the original NR format of only being able to post horse-related threads only so we set up our own little forum which still runs. We're all very close and a lot of us see each other regularly IRL. So we have the annual camp/BBQ at Bourton Vale Equitation Centre... it's fab.
On Sunday morning, very low key, I hopped on a little 14 hander patchy-pony mare and walked, trotted and cantered with no qualms. Then.... I popped her over a small jump Yes... ME!!! I dismounted and was shaking like a leaf but I bloody DID it and I'm so proud of myself!! What is HAS done is reinforce that little ones are the way to go for me. Pony-squishing is what I want to to and that's why we now have Arthur. The Comtois are known for their placid nature and Arthur is currently 14.2 or 3 (to be measured) - he's going to be my riding boy.... and Albi is going to be my driving boy....
And hopefully my confidence will start to re-build... brick by brick....
(PS I know we will have baby wibbles as they are young but I feel far more able to cope with the shorter ones having a strop!!! :giggle