...I assume this means something quite specific in Parelli. But I thought it was a really interesting phrase, that has got me thinking......
Mark Rashid (yes him again, sorry. I DO read other people but his books just strike a chord. Anyhow).... Mark Rashid wrote that he once trained a horse who did not like to be ridden. Not scared. Not in pain. Just basically would rather not interact with people or carry us about etc. He managed to get a degree of grudging co-operation from the horse which was a huge improvement from the flat refusal the owner used to get. But Mark always felt a bit bad about working a horse who really did not want to be worked. In that instance the horse who showed up was one that did not like people or want to work with them.
A few days ago Charlie would not be caught for the first time in his life. He had recently moved into a field with 2 pair-bonded mares who wouldn't let him get near either of them. Over the next 2-3 weeks he began sloooooowly to be accepted by them. The night before he wouldn't be caught I saw him sharing a pile of hay for the first time with one of them. The next morning as soon as I approached, all 3 hightailed it away, bucking, playing, swerving, galloping, having a great time.
He appeared to be fairly clear that while I wanted him to come and work he would rather play with his new friends. So what to do? How far do I take the 'partnership' thing? Is there a compromise here, and if so how do I even communicate that I am compromising and I expect him to meet me half way? The horse who showed up was a playful pony who had been a bit lonely and was now accepted and wanted to keep playing. So does that mean I change my plans enjoy watching him play and try again another day?
What if, on the day of a riding lesson, the horse who shows up is the horse who would rather go for a ploddy hack or do some freeschooling or play with his fieldmates. Can we really allow our horses free choice. Will they really choose 'appropriately'. Not got the answers here. I am just wondering how far people will go to listen to their horses if we don't actually like what they have to say!
Incidentally, my 'compromise' was to let him play for 10 minutes. Then I called STAND and he did. He then let himself be caught. He has been fine to catch ever since.
Mark Rashid (yes him again, sorry. I DO read other people but his books just strike a chord. Anyhow).... Mark Rashid wrote that he once trained a horse who did not like to be ridden. Not scared. Not in pain. Just basically would rather not interact with people or carry us about etc. He managed to get a degree of grudging co-operation from the horse which was a huge improvement from the flat refusal the owner used to get. But Mark always felt a bit bad about working a horse who really did not want to be worked. In that instance the horse who showed up was one that did not like people or want to work with them.
A few days ago Charlie would not be caught for the first time in his life. He had recently moved into a field with 2 pair-bonded mares who wouldn't let him get near either of them. Over the next 2-3 weeks he began sloooooowly to be accepted by them. The night before he wouldn't be caught I saw him sharing a pile of hay for the first time with one of them. The next morning as soon as I approached, all 3 hightailed it away, bucking, playing, swerving, galloping, having a great time.
He appeared to be fairly clear that while I wanted him to come and work he would rather play with his new friends. So what to do? How far do I take the 'partnership' thing? Is there a compromise here, and if so how do I even communicate that I am compromising and I expect him to meet me half way? The horse who showed up was a playful pony who had been a bit lonely and was now accepted and wanted to keep playing. So does that mean I change my plans enjoy watching him play and try again another day?
What if, on the day of a riding lesson, the horse who shows up is the horse who would rather go for a ploddy hack or do some freeschooling or play with his fieldmates. Can we really allow our horses free choice. Will they really choose 'appropriately'. Not got the answers here. I am just wondering how far people will go to listen to their horses if we don't actually like what they have to say!
Incidentally, my 'compromise' was to let him play for 10 minutes. Then I called STAND and he did. He then let himself be caught. He has been fine to catch ever since.