I have had my sisters cob living up with me since August. In september i started having two sharers for him...
Permanent sharer - Tues/Fri/Sun pays £65 per month DD.
Temp sharer - Mon/Sat and pays £15 per week but only when she rides...so could be £0 for no riding, £10 for one ride, £15 for two rides....originally set up as i thought she would only want to ride once every other week - turned out she LOVES it and rides pretty much twice a week every week depending on weather.
However the permanent sharer pays regardless and although some of you may wonder why this is the case - those three days are hers, if she chooses not to ride that's up to her....originally the temp sharer could only ride when i am there as she was a total beginner, so if i cant be there then i feel bad asking her to pay....plus when we first started it she wasnt sure how much she would want to commit etc etc...however as it turns out she LOVES riding and goes up on days when i cant be there and rides in all weather and arranges lessons when i cannot take her on a hack.
so for the last four months the permanent sharer hasnt been working so rides tues/fri in the mornings, i ride with her when work allows, but unfortunately i have realised that she is heavily dependent on me - if i cant ride then she wont go up even though she is more than capable of getting him in and riding in the school (shes experienced)....im finding it a bit of a bind now and also shes not 'pushing' herself anymore and just avoids going there without me....i was understanding for the first 3 months but now i feel she should go up without me if i cant be there...i just feel a bit under pressure to ride alot when sometimes i would rather not.
Now in my opinion a proper part loan is a set 3 days, if you cant ride on 1 or 2 of those days (as is the case for most people in the winter) then thats unfortunate but the money shouldnt change as the horse is 'hers' on those days?
the permanent sharer has said she has a job for three months starting jan which means no tuesday riding - but the way she was talking did sound like she was hoping i would drop the contribution?
(for those who think thats an option its not - my mother has said if he isnt covered rent wise then she will sell him...which isnt what me or my sister want so i have to make sure at least his rent is covered)
also the temp sharer has said she would consider taking an extra day in the next few months...which could work well as she would have mon/tues/sat and the perm loaner is flexible with her days and would have say wed/fri/sun....BUT i was thinking about then swapping the temp/perm around - so temp becomes perm and pays £65 per week for the 3 days, and the perm becomes temp and pays £15 depending on the amount she rides - BUT i run the risk of loosing money since as it has turned out she wont ride without me and there could be alot of chances of and i dont want to risk my mum making us sell him
mind you writing this all down has made me realise i perhaps need to see if they want to swap around...the temp sharer is dedicated, will feed mine if i cant make it...the perm sharer is just too dependent on me, although its fine whilst work is quiet i am finding it a bit of a bind! and perhaps if she starts really dropping days because i cant be there or she doesnt want to ride then i could look for someone a bit more dedicated or use him myself/for friends if she doesnt go up....
hmmm think i need to have a chat with them over the next few weeks!
i think originally i was hoping for a bit of help too from the perm sharer and since theres no stable duties (only poo picking in winter) i thought they could occassionally feed mine so i could have a weekend away or was working late but i didnt realise it would end up meaning i had to be there MORE to ensure the perm sharer actually went up and rides/poo picks....hmmmm
Permanent sharer - Tues/Fri/Sun pays £65 per month DD.
Temp sharer - Mon/Sat and pays £15 per week but only when she rides...so could be £0 for no riding, £10 for one ride, £15 for two rides....originally set up as i thought she would only want to ride once every other week - turned out she LOVES it and rides pretty much twice a week every week depending on weather.
However the permanent sharer pays regardless and although some of you may wonder why this is the case - those three days are hers, if she chooses not to ride that's up to her....originally the temp sharer could only ride when i am there as she was a total beginner, so if i cant be there then i feel bad asking her to pay....plus when we first started it she wasnt sure how much she would want to commit etc etc...however as it turns out she LOVES riding and goes up on days when i cant be there and rides in all weather and arranges lessons when i cannot take her on a hack.
so for the last four months the permanent sharer hasnt been working so rides tues/fri in the mornings, i ride with her when work allows, but unfortunately i have realised that she is heavily dependent on me - if i cant ride then she wont go up even though she is more than capable of getting him in and riding in the school (shes experienced)....im finding it a bit of a bind now and also shes not 'pushing' herself anymore and just avoids going there without me....i was understanding for the first 3 months but now i feel she should go up without me if i cant be there...i just feel a bit under pressure to ride alot when sometimes i would rather not.
Now in my opinion a proper part loan is a set 3 days, if you cant ride on 1 or 2 of those days (as is the case for most people in the winter) then thats unfortunate but the money shouldnt change as the horse is 'hers' on those days?
the permanent sharer has said she has a job for three months starting jan which means no tuesday riding - but the way she was talking did sound like she was hoping i would drop the contribution?
(for those who think thats an option its not - my mother has said if he isnt covered rent wise then she will sell him...which isnt what me or my sister want so i have to make sure at least his rent is covered)
also the temp sharer has said she would consider taking an extra day in the next few months...which could work well as she would have mon/tues/sat and the perm loaner is flexible with her days and would have say wed/fri/sun....BUT i was thinking about then swapping the temp/perm around - so temp becomes perm and pays £65 per week for the 3 days, and the perm becomes temp and pays £15 depending on the amount she rides - BUT i run the risk of loosing money since as it has turned out she wont ride without me and there could be alot of chances of and i dont want to risk my mum making us sell him
mind you writing this all down has made me realise i perhaps need to see if they want to swap around...the temp sharer is dedicated, will feed mine if i cant make it...the perm sharer is just too dependent on me, although its fine whilst work is quiet i am finding it a bit of a bind! and perhaps if she starts really dropping days because i cant be there or she doesnt want to ride then i could look for someone a bit more dedicated or use him myself/for friends if she doesnt go up....
hmmm think i need to have a chat with them over the next few weeks!
i think originally i was hoping for a bit of help too from the perm sharer and since theres no stable duties (only poo picking in winter) i thought they could occassionally feed mine so i could have a weekend away or was working late but i didnt realise it would end up meaning i had to be there MORE to ensure the perm sharer actually went up and rides/poo picks....hmmmm