Hello all. I am new to your site and love the great suggestions everyone makes. I didn't see a thread that covered this, but please direct me to one if it's out there.
I had a sweet paint mare (Butter) for 14 years. I boarded her at a friendly stable where I took lessons in fits and starts because work and life interfere with one's plans. Those were my first lessons - I did not have the opportunity when I was young and that is why at my age (59) I am still a beginner. When work finally relaxed to a point where I could start up again, Butter got uveitis. Too much to explain everything after that, but one thing led to another. She aspirated after a choke incident and got pneumonia. Vets did everything possible, but I ultimately had to let her go. At the time, I figured I needed to forget about riding.
Fast forward a year: I started taking lessons in February at the same barn with a new instructor who is a glorious fit for me. Horse fever took over and I purchased my 7 yo gelding in May. He was a little mouthy and cheeky at first, but he is becoming a far better horse than I ever expected. He's smart, sweet and willing and has learned so much. I certainly loved my mare, but Maverick is my heart horse and I adore that stinker.
My current instructor has shown me how to work through holes in his training (as well as my own!). My confidence has risen to an all time high as a result. But yesterday I learned this beloved stable is closing for good in a few months and my instructor is going to stop giving lessons. I am heartbroken.
I immediately started looking into other stables and was fortunate to find an opening near me. The owner also teaches, so it seems like a good option. But I am worried the horse is not going to achieve all he could if staying put were an option. My heart is asking if I should just find him a good home and let this hobby go. To start over yet again makes me heartsick. Losing him would break my heart also. I will likely lose connections with my contemporaries who will have to find new homes as well. That was part of the appeal of riding. I'm sure I can make new friends somewhere else, but it makes this introvert tired just thinking about it.
So that's my sob story - sorry it is a long ramble. Life IS change, but this one hurts. I look forward to your thoughts on it.
I had a sweet paint mare (Butter) for 14 years. I boarded her at a friendly stable where I took lessons in fits and starts because work and life interfere with one's plans. Those were my first lessons - I did not have the opportunity when I was young and that is why at my age (59) I am still a beginner. When work finally relaxed to a point where I could start up again, Butter got uveitis. Too much to explain everything after that, but one thing led to another. She aspirated after a choke incident and got pneumonia. Vets did everything possible, but I ultimately had to let her go. At the time, I figured I needed to forget about riding.
Fast forward a year: I started taking lessons in February at the same barn with a new instructor who is a glorious fit for me. Horse fever took over and I purchased my 7 yo gelding in May. He was a little mouthy and cheeky at first, but he is becoming a far better horse than I ever expected. He's smart, sweet and willing and has learned so much. I certainly loved my mare, but Maverick is my heart horse and I adore that stinker.
My current instructor has shown me how to work through holes in his training (as well as my own!). My confidence has risen to an all time high as a result. But yesterday I learned this beloved stable is closing for good in a few months and my instructor is going to stop giving lessons. I am heartbroken.
I immediately started looking into other stables and was fortunate to find an opening near me. The owner also teaches, so it seems like a good option. But I am worried the horse is not going to achieve all he could if staying put were an option. My heart is asking if I should just find him a good home and let this hobby go. To start over yet again makes me heartsick. Losing him would break my heart also. I will likely lose connections with my contemporaries who will have to find new homes as well. That was part of the appeal of riding. I'm sure I can make new friends somewhere else, but it makes this introvert tired just thinking about it.
So that's my sob story - sorry it is a long ramble. Life IS change, but this one hurts. I look forward to your thoughts on it.