Thanks everyone. I have tried all those solutions.
I do not waste hay or throw it out. I also don’t give him any bigger a bed than others (in fact smaller than some) and it is no bigger than what she does and I don’t take any more out. In fact i take less out that her.
I cannot afford another horse, and I don’t want another horse, to provide company in my own field. He also would need a stable in the winter and I can’t afford that set up single use. I would LOVE to tho!!
Last year I said I would need to move him as I couldn’t provide for his needs. (He needed to be out for his hocks and his lungs, but he needed hay constantly for the ulcers) She backed off saying no no that wasn’t what she was meaning or wanted.