Now you see I would go out with them and say, right let's get round to talking about my faults it saves me paying my instructor.I hate it. I have some friends who ride who I’m often with (not riding) and all they do is bitch about other people’s riding abilities. I now purposely never ride with them because I’m too scared what they’d be saying!
I do think it’s generally worse in horsey circles though?
I do think it’s generally worse in horsey circles though?
This is what I think too.Jealousy tends to be born out of insecurity.
100%!I prefer to ride alone as then I can do what I want according to how my horse feels and not be coerced into doing things I don't feel he should and hold others back.
I am probably considered the odd one out around here as my horses are out in the field every day even in winter, and aren't covered in gadgets and I wear high viz so I am odd one out. there is only one other rider around me who is similar and he also trains using NH stuff rather than draw reins.
I used to be on big yards when I shared horses and some of them were horrible.
I've also found that people who seem to have more problems with their horses (ie can't catch them, get carted every time they ride, don't get 100 feet before the napping starts etc,) are the ones who tend to be the most critical and snide. Jealousy tends to be born out of insecurity.
This is what I think too.
Tell them his headcollar is over there. It ends the conversation.I know lots of people have opinions on how little I do with Hogan, and think we should be schooling, or careering round the forest. Don't give a monkey's - I'm happy, he's happy - job done.
I think some people believe that riding a difficult horse and having it misbehave shows they are fine experienced riders. because they can stay seated.I've also found that people who seem to have more problems with their horses (ie can't catch them, get carted every time they ride, don't get 100 feet before the napping starts etc,) are the ones who tend to be the most critical and snide. Jealousy tends to be born out of insecurity.
I think some people believe that riding a difficult horse and having it misbehave shows they are fine experienced riders. because they can stay seated.
Whereas the art of good riding is to have it seem as if one is doing nothing. Watching one woman who chose the tricky horse, I always thought that if it had been me, I would by now have had that horse behave for me.
That's true - years ago I went out, twice, with a woman who believed that good riding meant your horse doing anything he wanted, and not being afraid - to the point of recklessness. The first time, I naively assumed, was a one off, when her horse took off, at the gallop (not a fast canter, a gallop) down a steep hill. I had little option but to follow, Ramsey was determined to keep up. At the end, she was unfazed, and said "Oh he always does that". Second time, same scenario, but over a small wooden bridge - I didn't risk a third time.