have asked them to do that but her neighbour is a bit deaf so not sure if it registered!Perhaps if they knocked on her door she'd be more receptive?
don't have their numbers at the moment and also she finds it hard to use the phone, we have to pre program it all on speed dial with big buttons but there are only 10 numbers availableIf she complains she's lonely remind her of this! Could she give them a call to see when they will be there? She can't expect everyone to run around her.
she chats daily with her friends at previous home, have asked social services for help but nothing forthcoming, she has had a visit from some church people and trying to change her church to locally will see if Age Concern have any ideas. It's a shame she won't go and join the ladies who meet twice a day downstairs, sit on their walkers and chat and then do a circuit of the garden togehter. I have asked her time and time again to come down and join them, when i go to see her if they are there but she won'tOur local Covid support group (on facebook) has volunteers who ring up old people for a chat.
You can lead a horse to water and all that, we've got one the same, won't go out of her room, everything we suggest is met with multiple objections, it's hard work and now even my old Dad who is 88 in a few weeks is showing signs of 'giving up' which is making me very worried and equally sad as he has never, ever been a quitter.she chats daily with her friends at previous home, have asked social services for help but nothing forthcoming, she has had a visit from some church people and trying to change her church to locally will see if Age Concern have any ideas. It's a shame she won't go and join the ladies who meet twice a day downstairs, sit on their walkers and chat and then do a circuit of the garden togehter. I have asked her time and time again to come down and join them, when i go to see her if they are there but she won't
When she's here and going out she's fine, guess we will just have to keep doing this couple of times a week and try to get her out and about and work on thatYou can lead a horse to water and all that, we've got one the same, won't go out of her room, everything we suggest is met with multiple objections, it's hard work and now even my old Dad who is 88 in a few weeks is showing signs of 'giving up' which is making me very worried and equally sad as he has never, ever been a quitter.
A lot of it is her eyesight, she can't read any more and i guess she has lost confidence. We did try every gadget under the sun but she wouldn't use them. Her memory though is really bad. And if i hear one more time that all the clothes that i packed in her house, transported and unpacked there are not hers I will bloody scream! She used to go on buying sprees spending 000s at a time and then put them in wardrobes etc and forgot about them then went and bought more!I suppose I was lucky really, my mum joined the U3A, loved painting, and really kept those things up until maybe 6 months before she passed away. There were things she would have nothing to do with though, like the going down and socialising in the communal lounge - she said they were all old fuddy duddies, and too old! (She was in her 80's)
You need to polish your halo missus! Honestly, I don't know how you cope. You do so much for her.Took her out today to Abbotsford, so she and OH could have coffee and cakes while I walked the poodles. Back at her flat, got the CD for the church service working, then saw that she had thrown out 7 new sweaters and tops, including a Gollehaug one which was £100 new reduced to £30....the rest were Olsen which are expensive. Dragged them out and asked about them, oh I didn't buy them they aren't mine. Well the Gollehaug came from a shop in Biggar, I gave her the Olsen ones for xmas birthday, some new with tags, all size 20 so fit her. The Emreco ones were bought either at the same shop in Biggar, or a place in Darvel or at the Emreco sale in Glasgow! So i spent the next 20 minutes hanging them all up again as someone has messed up my hanging so while there were enough hangers for everything there now aren't!
we get that one already!!! helps a bit but not always fool proofA very minor thing, but would it be worth getting Cravendale milk that has a much longer use by date on it but still tastes like normal milk rather than long life?