Oh my - roll on the move, and the end of your nightmare. At least you'll be able to put some distance between you.
She has no idea how lucky she is, having you. None. You're a blinking saint.I thought i had cracked the mum move into a flat. On Friday drove 2 hours each way, spent 5 hours loading the horse box - yes so full i had to leave a few bits behind but thought at least on the home straight. This is after 3 cars loads of stuff coming down, flat painted and decorated, the walk in wardrobe full of unloaded clothes - around 120 items at least....and hours listing stuff on ebay preloved market place gumtree only for sod all to sell.
All needing to be done is unload this lot, go and get the furniture which is coming, and get auctioneer to take rest. Auctioneer doesn't want any of it, will charge just to take it away and mum had another eruption last night.
I got to the stage that i told ok we will pay to take everything back up there, reinstate it and you are on your own. On the one hand all i get from her is you are doing too much, you will kill yourself. Who does she think is going to do all this clearing out, the Tooth Fairy of Mary Poppins. For the first time she is seeing how knackered OH and I are every time we go up there - on an emergency - and why she can't stay there as we can't support her and there is no one else THERE! Got the what will i do down here if you die, well the way you are going that's a strong possibility! Got the she is fed up, just dump everything outside and burn it - don't tempt me.
OH and I spent half of yesterday unloading what we could from the horsebox that would go straight in. Discovering that the microwave is too bloody big pity as it was the heaviest thing i lifted on Friday. Discovering we have 5 duvets, 5 sets of bed linen. Managed to put a picture up found that the chest of drawers we had brought will fit after all - thank god as it is bloody heavy too! There are 3 vacuum cleaners, 1 steam mop...ok i need a new vacuum here but some poor sod has had to carry them downstairs and load, unload etc.
Feeling just a tad cheesed off.
Have parked the box at the kitchen door - drove over the lawn to do so, so that i can bring boxes into kitchen, assess and repack to sell, charity shop or go to flat.
spent all day sorting photos into albums......She has no idea how lucky she is, having you. None. You're a blinking saint.
You poor thing, i really feel for you. I am trying to avoid this at all costs. They really do the guilt trip and emotional blackmailOh @diplomaticandtactful I wish things were easier for you, sending you a ton of good vibes, it’s so bloody difficult isn’t it?
We’re now at the point with MIL where she’s refusing to get out of bed, refusing to eat more than a teaspoon of food and keeps telling us she’s dying. I’ve told her if she carries on the way she is she will die, she keeps laying the guilt trip on Mr KR saying if you loved me you’d be here every day to take care of me...... arghhh
been down to the flat, taken out 3 doors to make it easier to navigate with a trolley/walker. Put up six pictures and 2 mirrors. Finish them tomorrow. Had another chat with my doctor, starting to take pills for high blood pressure as it is through the roof and he is concerned that with the stress i am under i could have a stroke or heart attack. I know one of the ladies who shows donkeys, used to see her at all the local shows, she had a stroke year or so ago and left in very bad way. Have resisted going on meds for ages as i am a bit marginal, i.e. if someone nice takes my bp it's lower, if a certain nurse does it it's high as i don't like her!Get her in there and just maybe, she'll be what passes for happy for her. Easier said than done, I know. But she'll have company, and maybe that will take the pressure off you. Keep ranting on here - everyone's rooting for you.
thanks i have done over 110 hours work so far and must have another 4 full days at least before there is any chance of moving her in.Lots and lots of soothing / calming vibes. Get it all off your chest here if you can. Old people can be so selfish and frustrating.
Please, please be kind to yourself, the last thing you need right now is to make yourself really ill or worse.thanks i have done over 110 hours work so far and must have another 4 full days at least before there is any chance of moving her in.
I really hope I am like my parents when I’m old, if I turn into a selfish old curmudgeon I hope someone will shoot me.Lots and lots of soothing / calming vibes. Get it all off your chest here if you can. Old people can be so selfish and frustrating.
they all say that, gran said that and mum said that too but it never rings true when it happens.I really hope I am like my parents when I’m old, if I turn into a selfish old curmudgeon I hope someone will shoot me.
that's about it, to avoid everything we just "I cannae see" all the time but funnily enough out in the car she can see very well.Yep my mum said it about her mum. Funny enough shes doing the same thing. I think people get to a certain age or point where everything is just too much trouble, so they just sit in it and do nothing. Noticed my mum is passing the buck to me loads lately. Things like well you call the vets. You do that. You dish the dinner up.