Yikes ! I wasn't really expecting a reply as didn't think it was that similar to proper confidence problems but you did reply, and extensively too, thank you.
In answer to to the question 'why try ?' I did come up with answer....'because it means everything to me' Thats why I will never give up, never.
For me it isn't riding thats a problem (though everyone tells me I ride better than I think :-(
My love is NH. I love learning and study several people with ideas similar to my own but I do alot of Parelli so alot of groundwork. My dream is to be able to read, understand, build real partnership, and communicate with my horses.
(eventually would love to ride bareback and bridleless but thats a long way off)
I have 3 lovely horses, a good yard with good facilities, and although I work away alot, when I'm home I can dedicate all my time to playing with my horses.
Why then do I hardly ever do more than hanging out with them in field or stable ? Why after 2 yrs have I hardly improved much at all ?
Because I'm scared of getting it wrong :-(
I don't want anyone to see me fail or laugh at me so much that I avoid trying in the first place !
I know it doesn't make sense to let other peoples opinion of me keep me from my dream, nevertheless, I do ! I am almost paralysed by it and hate myself for being so feeble.
Might also add last year I left an emotionally abusive relationship after 11 yrs of lies, manipulation, control, cruelty, critisism, mocking, taunting etc.....think it might have had a bit of an effect ??????
What am I good at ? Apart from eating chocolate ??? (still have my sense of humour
I am good at loving my horses unconditionally, and accepting them for who they are.
What would make me a better NH'r ? Actually trying something might help !!!
I have actually made a small start by finding a better yard which is less formal, less smart, with lots of opportunities for practising NH and fewer physical restrictions. My aim is to try and eliminate all my 'excuses' one by one. Will be moving them sometime this month (but was awake for 3 hrs last night stressing about the actual move :-(
I see on your facebook page you do phone/skype coaching so might take you up on that.