Hello everybody please could you try and help me. A bit of background on me first, I'm 40 and have been around horses all my life, always loaning others or helping other people with theirs etc, I ride fairly well but since being bolted with along a road 2 years ago I am now a nervous rider, I have a young family so do all I can to avoid falling off!
For over a year now, I have been looking after 2 connemaras for a friend, who live at her house, Mary is 14 and Peter is 21. They are very happy together and only make faces at tea time. My friend said if I ever got my own horse, he or she could live there as well, there is more than enough grazing to go round.
2 weeks ago I brought my own horse, Mister, a 10yr old appaloosa gelding to join the family. I roped him off an area so they could get the hellos out of the way safely and after a week, they were all in together, he seemed to have settled and they accepted him, again the only problems I ever saw were when food was put out.
Mister and I had a few very quiet hacks alone, always on the same one route, taking about 30 mins, only walking and trotting and I was always waiting for something to go wrong, he seemed very tense. I was glad when we got back in one piece, but thought this was because of my history. He was constantly calling to the others, and they calling back, he would stop and need alot of encouragement to walk on. Anyway, yesterday I tacked him up, and becasue he seemed so up on his toes, in the end, I decided I would just walk him out a little way instead of riding. We got a fair way with him shouting to the others and then I didn't feel at all in control so I turned for home. At this point he reared up, snatched the reins out of my hand and galloped for home. Luckily he did go into the yard although he slipped over turning as it was so wet. So now I have lost all confidence about riding him again, although happy to work on the ground with him. I feel so disappointed as his description was glowing, a calm steady plod who took novice and nervous riders.
So today I feel a bit better and decided that I will let him settle right in before I ask anymore of him, and take it right back to basics, lots of grooming, getting to know each other etc. In the field this morning, he was mounting Mary, who I think has come into season. Over this past year I have never known her to come into season, but now we have the urinating, the getting in Mister's face, the winking (almost the mane flick lol), all to get his attention. He was really on top of her and seemed to be enjoying himself! Anyway, I suppose I'm asking is this all normal, is this part of them establishing who is top dog etc, Peter doesn't mount Mary although does strike out at Mister and plenty of squealing going on. Could this be why Mister was so out of character and came running home yesterday-to get to Mary?
Sorry for such a long epistle, Please any help very much welcomed, many thanks Fen x
For over a year now, I have been looking after 2 connemaras for a friend, who live at her house, Mary is 14 and Peter is 21. They are very happy together and only make faces at tea time. My friend said if I ever got my own horse, he or she could live there as well, there is more than enough grazing to go round.
2 weeks ago I brought my own horse, Mister, a 10yr old appaloosa gelding to join the family. I roped him off an area so they could get the hellos out of the way safely and after a week, they were all in together, he seemed to have settled and they accepted him, again the only problems I ever saw were when food was put out.
Mister and I had a few very quiet hacks alone, always on the same one route, taking about 30 mins, only walking and trotting and I was always waiting for something to go wrong, he seemed very tense. I was glad when we got back in one piece, but thought this was because of my history. He was constantly calling to the others, and they calling back, he would stop and need alot of encouragement to walk on. Anyway, yesterday I tacked him up, and becasue he seemed so up on his toes, in the end, I decided I would just walk him out a little way instead of riding. We got a fair way with him shouting to the others and then I didn't feel at all in control so I turned for home. At this point he reared up, snatched the reins out of my hand and galloped for home. Luckily he did go into the yard although he slipped over turning as it was so wet. So now I have lost all confidence about riding him again, although happy to work on the ground with him. I feel so disappointed as his description was glowing, a calm steady plod who took novice and nervous riders.
So today I feel a bit better and decided that I will let him settle right in before I ask anymore of him, and take it right back to basics, lots of grooming, getting to know each other etc. In the field this morning, he was mounting Mary, who I think has come into season. Over this past year I have never known her to come into season, but now we have the urinating, the getting in Mister's face, the winking (almost the mane flick lol), all to get his attention. He was really on top of her and seemed to be enjoying himself! Anyway, I suppose I'm asking is this all normal, is this part of them establishing who is top dog etc, Peter doesn't mount Mary although does strike out at Mister and plenty of squealing going on. Could this be why Mister was so out of character and came running home yesterday-to get to Mary?
Sorry for such a long epistle, Please any help very much welcomed, many thanks Fen x