Hi all,
Would really appreciate your thoughts & experiences. Apologies that this is so long A little over 2 months ago I bought a 5.5 year old Andalusian mare. Previously she had been shown in-hand by her breeder and taken for leisurely rides around the paddocks to bring in the cows & check fences (they breed Andys & run a few cattle). Overall she is incredibly bomb-proof and unfazed - branches falling off trees right by her side, dogs, trucks, motor bikes, other horses spooking, flapping flags...nothing seems to spook her. So in that sense she is a dream. But riding her is becoming a miserable battle. She is young and so we are starting from basics - I have a wonderful, highly experienced instructor who I have a lesson with once a week, & the rest of the time I'm on my own - but even getting on her and getting her to go forward is a bloody battle. I ride her in the arena 2-4 times a week, and out on the trails in the bush once a week. Today when I tried to get on her she moved away so I growled at her "No!", she moved again so I smacked her & growled; she moved again so I flicked her with the dressage whip & growled; she moved again so I flicked her hard with the whip - she stood and let me mount. I felt sick. I felt as though I had just abused my horse by hitting her so hard. At walk she is usually pretty good - she's very responsive to seat & legs. As soon as we start trotting the battle begins - she throws her head around, tries to go where she wants rather than where I want and spends most of the time with her ears back (not quite pinned, but not far off). On trail rides she has her ears back pretty much the whole time, as though she resents the whole bloody outing, even though she is with one of her paddock buddies. Her teeth are good, her saddle has been expertly fitted and my instructor thinks it's 100% attitude - in lessons when she does this my instructor makes me really ride her forward until she becomes more giving. On the ground I have had to assert my authority with in-hand work and now she is fabulous - at my side, goes where I go, stops when I stop, matches my pace...an angel!But under saddle - "Nup. Get lost!"
It's early days, I know, but I have never owned a mare before, and never a horse so young, and so I guess my question is, is this likely a teething issue and once we get our relationship sorted she'll be the willing companion I'm hoping for, or is this "Get stuffed! Make me!" attitude likely to be the hallmark of our relationship? This constant conflict & need to be physically violent with her is really taking a lot of the joy out of our life together.
All thoughts & suggestions much appreciated!
Would really appreciate your thoughts & experiences. Apologies that this is so long A little over 2 months ago I bought a 5.5 year old Andalusian mare. Previously she had been shown in-hand by her breeder and taken for leisurely rides around the paddocks to bring in the cows & check fences (they breed Andys & run a few cattle). Overall she is incredibly bomb-proof and unfazed - branches falling off trees right by her side, dogs, trucks, motor bikes, other horses spooking, flapping flags...nothing seems to spook her. So in that sense she is a dream. But riding her is becoming a miserable battle. She is young and so we are starting from basics - I have a wonderful, highly experienced instructor who I have a lesson with once a week, & the rest of the time I'm on my own - but even getting on her and getting her to go forward is a bloody battle. I ride her in the arena 2-4 times a week, and out on the trails in the bush once a week. Today when I tried to get on her she moved away so I growled at her "No!", she moved again so I smacked her & growled; she moved again so I flicked her with the dressage whip & growled; she moved again so I flicked her hard with the whip - she stood and let me mount. I felt sick. I felt as though I had just abused my horse by hitting her so hard. At walk she is usually pretty good - she's very responsive to seat & legs. As soon as we start trotting the battle begins - she throws her head around, tries to go where she wants rather than where I want and spends most of the time with her ears back (not quite pinned, but not far off). On trail rides she has her ears back pretty much the whole time, as though she resents the whole bloody outing, even though she is with one of her paddock buddies. Her teeth are good, her saddle has been expertly fitted and my instructor thinks it's 100% attitude - in lessons when she does this my instructor makes me really ride her forward until she becomes more giving. On the ground I have had to assert my authority with in-hand work and now she is fabulous - at my side, goes where I go, stops when I stop, matches my pace...an angel!But under saddle - "Nup. Get lost!"
It's early days, I know, but I have never owned a mare before, and never a horse so young, and so I guess my question is, is this likely a teething issue and once we get our relationship sorted she'll be the willing companion I'm hoping for, or is this "Get stuffed! Make me!" attitude likely to be the hallmark of our relationship? This constant conflict & need to be physically violent with her is really taking a lot of the joy out of our life together.
All thoughts & suggestions much appreciated!