I am happy on my yard, its quiet and even though my last chap died suddenly and my current lass nearly died-i wanted to stay. It was just bad luck it wasn't the fault of my location. Obviously i was surrounded by anger but it wasn't mine.
Now though i still feel not part of things. I knew losing my other chap would change me, it does you can't deny that. A sudden loss is life stopping. But even now i still don't feel back to normal, maybe i won't be. I am where i am. I spent over a year just on groundwork and the odd sit with new pony. Obviously i watched others hack out, initially i missed that a lot, but after a while i became content with what i had. My relationship grew (plus she was unsafe to take out)
Them she went ill, seriously ill, and my world stopped again. This time it was different, i didn't worry, i didn't flap, i got stronger and felt you ain't taking this one!
This leads me to the today, clean bill of health, ok muscle issues requiring exercises, therapist coming back-well whose horse doesn't have that. The problem is i am so far removed from the yard i am not included, i have suggested hacking out because she can now start this. It doesn't really matter that her first ever hack was on her own, but i have spent practically everyday on our own. My friend sold her horse and that was when i noticed that no one else on the yard bothers with us. I have suggested a hack but it doesn't happen.
Sorry cookies-but who else doesn't feel part of things because again i know i am not blood with this feeling and its just part Of the process.
Now though i still feel not part of things. I knew losing my other chap would change me, it does you can't deny that. A sudden loss is life stopping. But even now i still don't feel back to normal, maybe i won't be. I am where i am. I spent over a year just on groundwork and the odd sit with new pony. Obviously i watched others hack out, initially i missed that a lot, but after a while i became content with what i had. My relationship grew (plus she was unsafe to take out)
Them she went ill, seriously ill, and my world stopped again. This time it was different, i didn't worry, i didn't flap, i got stronger and felt you ain't taking this one!
This leads me to the today, clean bill of health, ok muscle issues requiring exercises, therapist coming back-well whose horse doesn't have that. The problem is i am so far removed from the yard i am not included, i have suggested hacking out because she can now start this. It doesn't really matter that her first ever hack was on her own, but i have spent practically everyday on our own. My friend sold her horse and that was when i noticed that no one else on the yard bothers with us. I have suggested a hack but it doesn't happen.
Sorry cookies-but who else doesn't feel part of things because again i know i am not blood with this feeling and its just part Of the process.
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