Has anyone ever tried to buy back your horse?

Hmmmm .... the first time round i only had Dixie for 5 months .... doesn`t mean i love her any less than a horse i`ve had 2 years ... and it didn`t make a difference to me wanting/having her back or asking for first refusal (like they did with me).


I can understand why you`d feel protective, he`s a good beautiful lad. No need to worry about any confrontations, just smile, be happy in yourself, and be clear you`ll be happy to let them be first on the list IF you ever parted with him .. but you`re very very happy with him for now thank you very much :wink:
 
Stevie's previous owner sold him to me in early November, and when we spoke mid-December he asked if I minded him taking out hunting one last time on Boxing Day (I bought him from someone I know). I said no probs, he will be having Christmas off anyway so he would probably enjoy the change. We agreed he would collect him on Christmas eve and return him either Boxing day night or the following day, depending on what time he got back from the meet. He rang me early on Christmas eve to say he couldn't do it, that he would only end up getting upset and not wanting to bring him back, and try to buy him back but he knew I wouldn't sell him. So Steven stayed home for Crimbo :smile:

I also got a phonecall a few weeks after I'd bought him (before that ^^ ) from someone who'd only just found out he had been for sale. They offered me a small fortune for him, and seemed rather upset when I said no :giggle:
 
While I agree that it would be very kind of you to let the old owners visit, I am very much a person who relys on my 'gut feelings' Im not usually wrong either, so if it were me and my 'gut feeling' was telling me NO then I'd probably go with it.
We are only here once and I spent way to much of my life doing what I thought was best for everyone else but never myself, if you feel you don't want them to visit or can't cope with them visiting for what ever reason, if it makes You feel uncomfortable/uneasy or unhappy then don't do it.
And if you decide not to let them visit don't then go on and beat yourself up about it, allow yourself to make the decision and move on.
 
Kite_Rider said:
While I agree that it would be very kind of you to let the old owners visit, I am very much a person who relys on my 'gut feelings' Im not usually wrong either, so if it were me and my 'gut feeling' was telling me NO then I'd probably go with it.
We are only here once and I spent way to much of my life doing what I thought was best for everyone else but never myself, if you feel you don't want them to visit or can't cope with them visiting for what ever reason, if it makes You feel uncomfortable/uneasy or unhappy then don't do it.
And if you decide not to let them visit don't then go on and beat yourself up about it, allow yourself to make the decision and move on.
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Thank you - this is just what I needed to hear. I don't know why I sometimes feel I need to justify my decisions and go against what I feel is right. I am normally a pretty good judge of things and sometimes need to trust myself more.

I sent a long, detailed e mail saying what we had been up to etc. and how he was. I also said that it is my intention to keep him for life and let my children learn to ride on him etc. This was a few days ago and I haven't heard anything back.
 
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Thank you - this is just what I needed to hear. I don't know why I sometimes feel I need to justify my decisions and go against what I feel is right. I am normally a pretty good judge of things and sometimes need to trust myself more.

I sent a long, detailed e mail saying what we had been up to etc. and how he was. I also said that it is my intention to keep him for life and let my children learn to ride on him etc. This was a few days ago and I haven't heard anything back.
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Sounds like you hit the nail on the head if you haven't heard anything back ;)
 
eventerbabe said:
You are under no obligation to let them visit. And tbh, if i were you, i'd probably stall them and put them off. SHE sold Ben and that's her hard cheese if she's regretting it. You own him now and of course you are going to be protective of him. Do you email with pics/updates? if so and you really feel uneasy about them visiting then that should be sufficient.

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If I felt at all uneasy then I'd not be letting them visit. I can't go into details on here but I know how you feel MP.
Nothing wrong with giving them an email update etc. I think the emotional bond you are trying to form with Ben is important and tbh, I think that when an old owner comes to see their ex horse so soon in the day, if you have any reservations then you should go with your gut instinct and stall them.
When we bought JOe he was such a nervous highly strung creature I dreaded the old owners wanting to see him, because it took OH a lot of time and patience (doesn't it always!) to bond with him - and we were afraid seeing the old owner might spoil it. Also, he would have got very upset as the old owner was quite emotional and I didn't want that putting a damper on things with regard to him settling in
ANyway, I am waffling now.............
 
With the breakup of my first marriage etc And too many details to go into on here I was in the position Mary of having to sell the best horse I have ever had the fortune of owning, to be fair to him. It broke my heart and I held out for the best home possible? Well I got that lol as they still own him 13 Odd years on!

I did visit and hv kept in touch and years ago when my situation changed said that should they ever be in the position that they wanted to sell I would buy him back in a heartbeat, however I am certain he has a home there for life. She actually said to me 'I remember you saying to me that I could not appreciate at the time what you were selling and how hard it was and how lucky I was to have bought and tbh now I understand 150%'!

AND IT WAS TRUE:biggrin: He was a horse in a million and thats one of the reasons I HAD to let him go, he deserved much better than he was getting from me at the time in the situation I found myself in:wink:

Don't be intimidated by his previous owner but actually congratulate yourself that they loved and appreciated Ben as much as you do, and be reassure that you made the right purchase lol if they would like him back. I am sure they may make the offer but just say No, he is your dream horse but should your situation ever change you will bear them in mind.

I know that my Old horse has a fabulous home is loved dearly and cared for wonderfully and as much as I miss him I am totally thankful for that and the fact this lady bought him, in all honesty he deserved no less, they love and appreciate him for all the same reasons I did, and my friend, who bred him, did before me. Although I am always sad that circumstances at the time made us part ways I am happy that I know he is happy and as much as I would have loved him back the fact that she wouldn't part with him makes me incredibly happy as well, lol, if that makes sense.

I have visited Sadiq several times and always come home with mixed feelings if I am honest, sad for ME but happy that I know he has such a great home and fabulous owner who loves him very much indeed and that he is very happy and healthy probably living out his life with her. They always made me welcome often the ones issuing the invite and it does bring me comfort knowing I picked the 'right' new owner for him. It wouldn't be the end of the world to stay in touch with somebody who appreciated Ben's qualities as much as you do surely. If it becomes that they want to visit ridiculously often then is the time to say no, but a visit to see how he has settled isn't too much to ask. Xxxxx

I will ALWAYS regret the circumstances that made me part with Sadiq, however thats how it had to be at the time, BUT I will always be grateful to this fabulous Lady that I knew would be 100% 'right for him' , who has given him a fabulous fabulous home, loves him to death and in all honesty has done far more with him than I would EVER have done, she was my 'salvation' in a very bad time and I will always be thankful for that.

Whilst I understand it is still early days for you and Ben and you may not want them visiting just yet, try and put them off until the Lighter Nights, invite them one evening, when they can't stay too long, lol, and I would presume by then they would have come to the conclusion all on their own that you intend keeping him HAH x

I certainly wouldn't be expecting any confrontations, you can't blame them for asking, after all you 'could' have made a mistake and Ben not be for you, but if you just smile and say 'No Sorry, he is my dream Horse' and then say but should circumstances ever change etc., I am sure they wouldn't push you and if they do
just say a V.FIRM 'NO' and ask them to leave, however I doubt it would come to that xxxx
 
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Wow Daisy your story gave me goose bumps! How wonderful for that horse to have two people love her so much and never lacking of a place to call home.

I like Nat's idea the best. Invite them over so they can see how happy the horse is and be sure to drop enough hints about how much you like this horse so they don't even think about asking for him.

It will be okay. They can ask but they can't make you give him up.

I was just thinking of selling my youngest and thought of ways to put in the contract first refusal rights. Then I saw her with her trainer and figured: what am I? An idiot? Why would I sell her if I am already thinking of buying her back! But I am sure some people sell before they come to that realization
 
Oh and I agree with Kite's assessment as well: if it stresses you out then don't do it. But for myself I'd always feel weird if I ran into them later on. So personally I'd prefer to just settle the matter for good. A visit would have probably done that.
But it sounds as if your letter accomplished the same so all is well!
 
When I sold my youngster Morse the new owner e mailed me constantly asking advice. She still has him now four nearly five years on, has done a fabulous job with what , in all honesty, was never an 'easy horse' lol, loves him dearly and we have become great friends tbh. They nearly always come to visit when they are in Bristol, and are always inviting me down there, an offer which I am pretty ashamed to admit I haven't taken them up on yet as never seem to have any spare time......maybe this spring/summer lol x

It has had some real bonuses in that if she has a tricky situation she can run it past me knowing I knew him well and vice versa if I have a problem with one of my youngsters can run it past her knowing damn well she is sure to have come up against similar with Morse:biggrin:

But I can understand how you feel, don't write it all off completely but maybe just update them occasionally by e mail with some photo's and down the line you may feel differently x
 
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