How do other people fit in a soical life with everything else going on in their lives? I am struggling at the moment
social life.
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I dont have one 
Seriously tho I speak to my best friend every day and we meet up a couple of times a month for mate dates and stuff. Im to tired to go out and get drunk like I used to every weekend
Seriously tho I speak to my best friend every day and we meet up a couple of times a month for mate dates and stuff. Im to tired to go out and get drunk like I used to every weekend
I hardly ever go out these days. Its too expensive and I am generally too knackered.
I do manage to keep up with lots of friends though, we phone, or keep in touch on line, then every so often we visit each other and have a good catch up.
Sometimes I don't see people for ages but, we are always in one another's thoughts and when we do meet, its like we have never been apart:smile:
I do manage to keep up with lots of friends though, we phone, or keep in touch on line, then every so often we visit each other and have a good catch up.
Sometimes I don't see people for ages but, we are always in one another's thoughts and when we do meet, its like we have never been apart:smile:
I used to have more of one when i lived in London but with a horse (or two!) social lives tend to take a back step due to lack of finances and time. unless you can afford eg full livery you'll always have to compromise I think. As I always tell people .... 'it's not a hobby', it's a lifestyle!'
Hmm right now I don't but that is due to many factors.
My best friend moved up to Aberdeen so I can't see her as often as I used to and that just means I don't have someone to go out with anymore, we used to do dinner at each others house once a week. Most of my other friends are from work or the yard and as we tend to see each other there we don't organise much outwith work/yard. The yard is about as much socialising as I get!
I am seriously lacking in money after all the vet fees so I don't have the money to join any clubs that I might like to get myself out and about and meeting new people. I do a bit of running and I want to get back into that but for me that is something I do alone with my music on as motivation!
I'm working hard to sort the money situation out which should hopefully help with everything else!
Time-wise if I wanted to do something I could make time for it. I work Mon-Fri 8-4:30. At the yard I can prefill haynets and make feeds in advance, my stable is quick to muck out because of the bedding I use and my horse is low maintenance because she can't be ridden so that doesn't take up so much time. I can be home by 6:30/45 if I need to be in the evenings. Right now my weekends are spent wasting time so I could easily fit things in then. Right now all that is holding me back is money, I'm trying to cut down on all sorts and this year will be good for that as things like my mobile phone contract need renewing throughout the year!
My best friend moved up to Aberdeen so I can't see her as often as I used to and that just means I don't have someone to go out with anymore, we used to do dinner at each others house once a week. Most of my other friends are from work or the yard and as we tend to see each other there we don't organise much outwith work/yard. The yard is about as much socialising as I get!
I am seriously lacking in money after all the vet fees so I don't have the money to join any clubs that I might like to get myself out and about and meeting new people. I do a bit of running and I want to get back into that but for me that is something I do alone with my music on as motivation!
I'm working hard to sort the money situation out which should hopefully help with everything else!
Time-wise if I wanted to do something I could make time for it. I work Mon-Fri 8-4:30. At the yard I can prefill haynets and make feeds in advance, my stable is quick to muck out because of the bedding I use and my horse is low maintenance because she can't be ridden so that doesn't take up so much time. I can be home by 6:30/45 if I need to be in the evenings. Right now my weekends are spent wasting time so I could easily fit things in then. Right now all that is holding me back is money, I'm trying to cut down on all sorts and this year will be good for that as things like my mobile phone contract need renewing throughout the year!
The only social life I have is with my yard friend who is sadly leaving the yard at the end of the month so then I'll be back to being Billy no mates!
I happily shed my social life (such that it was!) 10 years ago - a straight swap for two horses and a horse convert husband!!! heheeee.
I keep in touch with my friends - but the majority of the old crowd see me as weird these days and don't like to visit. Last time some of our friends came they spent the whole day grumbling about the highland cattle (would they give chase?!) and worrying about their footwear when I took them for a tramp through our wood. 'Nuff said.
I keep in touch with my friends - but the majority of the old crowd see me as weird these days and don't like to visit. Last time some of our friends came they spent the whole day grumbling about the highland cattle (would they give chase?!) and worrying about their footwear when I took them for a tramp through our wood. 'Nuff said.
My social life isn't what it used to be, but with 2 young kids, a horse and a job it is hard to fit in anything else. Also, give me a choice between going out drinking and spending an evening with my horse, the horse wins every time!
Social life now what is that?
I used to have one,too much of one when i was too young and too naive (sp) i thought i was having a hoot at the time but now look back and cringe.i over the last 5 years have turned into a pipe and slippers girl,i love my spare time at the yard,am great friends with yard owner so see her most days and am very close with my boss and also my mum and dad.i am abit of a hermit tbh but very happy this way,i enjoy a dvd and takeaway with yo and a day out with my mum and/or dad,dad and i are going to the cinema on monday i have people i know but only 2 people i would truely class as friends and then my mum and dad who i love dearly. My dog is my favourite man in the world and my horse is my life without that i honestly have no idea what i would do.
I used to have one,too much of one when i was too young and too naive (sp) i thought i was having a hoot at the time but now look back and cringe.i over the last 5 years have turned into a pipe and slippers girl,i love my spare time at the yard,am great friends with yard owner so see her most days and am very close with my boss and also my mum and dad.i am abit of a hermit tbh but very happy this way,i enjoy a dvd and takeaway with yo and a day out with my mum and/or dad,dad and i are going to the cinema on monday
i have people i know but only 2 people i would truely class as friends and then my mum and dad who i love dearly. My dog is my favourite man in the world and my horse is my life without that i honestly have no idea what i would do.
I didn't realise it, but my social life happened primarily at my work. Now that I've left, I'm struggling to keep up with all the folk I've left behind there. Also I am royally skint these days and have very little time. I had some holidays there at Christmas and really started to feel quite lonely, I now realise how much I actually enjoy human interaction. I used to get enough of it when at work, but now I'm a bit of an outsider at my new job, I'm not getting the social interaction I crave. Can't believe I'm saying that. I'm known for being a grumpy hermit lol.
I know its temporary though. Even going back to work yesterday, already made me feel better and I'm not so lonely again. Its really difficult trying to keep up with folk socially. Everyone's got their own lives and tbh, there's only so many flipping times I can meet for coffee or go out for dinner. I'm sick of eating out and its costing me a lot as I'm always the one that has to travel to them as I live in the middle of nowhere and am single so carefree and its easier.
Its making the effort that's the tough bit. Even though I have a social life and friends, they all have their own families and lives that come before me. This is going to sound mega mega sad, but it was my birthday two days ago and no one outside of my family and two friends remembered. Probably my own fault as I have it hidden from view on fb and I'm old enough now that birthdays are just another day, but it just reminds me that I'm a bit lonely since I left my old job. But was the social interaction I had at my old job, just an illusion of social life?
I know its temporary though. Even going back to work yesterday, already made me feel better and I'm not so lonely again. Its really difficult trying to keep up with folk socially. Everyone's got their own lives and tbh, there's only so many flipping times I can meet for coffee or go out for dinner. I'm sick of eating out and its costing me a lot as I'm always the one that has to travel to them as I live in the middle of nowhere and am single so carefree and its easier.
Its making the effort that's the tough bit. Even though I have a social life and friends, they all have their own families and lives that come before me. This is going to sound mega mega sad, but it was my birthday two days ago and no one outside of my family and two friends remembered. Probably my own fault as I have it hidden from view on fb and I'm old enough now that birthdays are just another day, but it just reminds me that I'm a bit lonely since I left my old job. But was the social interaction I had at my old job, just an illusion of social life?
FM that really is bad, you also hid it from here! I do not do birthdays either but I must admit its nice when you do get birthday wishes..:angel:
Happy Birthday:dance::dance:
Happy Birthday:dance::dance:
I used to have more of one when i lived in London but with a horse (or two!) social lives tend to take a back step due to lack of finances and time. unless you can afford eg full livery you'll always have to compromise I think. As I always tell people .... 'it's not a hobby', it's a lifestyle!'
Yes, its a way of life, I feel constantly pulled between one and the other but the horses rule, my friends and family have to except it....Good friends take it on board and are still, just that, good friends:smile: The others have got lost along the way tbh
I thought mine would be crap when we moved as I left everyone I had known for years. but I have shocked myself and my OH.
When I meet him I would not talk to anyone and found making friends really hard.
Now we are here I love it, we go to the Mess every wednesday night as I am on the committee, We always have a good laugh in fact last night I was a bit to drunk and felt rough all day. We have gone to the pub and out for dinner with other couples from the yard as well.
I have friends from Lincoln coming down to visit this weekend and I am going to visit another couple at the end of the month.
Time wise I am just very organised both boys are on DIY. I ride both the boys most nights or a least one a night if Chanter needs a break. I do not have children which helps and a great OH who is very supportive.
When I meet him I would not talk to anyone and found making friends really hard.
Now we are here I love it, we go to the Mess every wednesday night as I am on the committee, We always have a good laugh in fact last night I was a bit to drunk and felt rough all day. We have gone to the pub and out for dinner with other couples from the yard as well.
I have friends from Lincoln coming down to visit this weekend and I am going to visit another couple at the end of the month.
Time wise I am just very organised both boys are on DIY. I ride both the boys most nights or a least one a night if Chanter needs a break. I do not have children which helps and a great OH who is very supportive.
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