what are your irrational fears?

My horsey fears are:

Going at any speed above a walk downhill - ever since I had a bad fall a few years ago when the horse bolted down a fairly steep hill and then tripped and went completely head over heels (I was luckily thrown clear but landed on my face and tore my bottom lip away from my face).

My horse being attacked/chased by other (loose) horses while I'm riding in their field

Recently I have started jumping and developed a slight fear of the horse refusing and throwing me off - has happened once but I think it was down to over-excitement and not enough build-up so I think I will get over it with more practice

All mine are things that have happened in the past so I don't think I have any truly irrational ones. I can't think of any non-horsey fears but I'm sure they will come to me...
 
Im not sure I have any irrational horsey fears although I do have things that worry me more than normal..

Rearing whilst im on the ground, dont mind so much riding but I hate them rearing next to me!

Jumping in enclosed areas like a small school, I can jump fine out in a field, XC course or a large arena but I hate being closed in a small school.

Being watching when schooling, fine out on a hack but I HATE people watching me in the school It actually makes me want to get off and stop what im doing. Same with lunging.

My own fears which are rather irrational :giggle:

Spiders, im a little better than I used to be but only upto a certain size. I have had some major panick attacks and been physically sick on sight of a spider. Infact the last house I lived in I moved out of as there was so many spiders in there I thought there was a nest so I gave my notice and left :redface:

Clowns - Another really big fear, I turn into a big baby on sight of one and cry my eyes out if it comes near me lol!

Open water / fire - both fears but not something I think about often.

My children falling out of windows.. this is a very irrational fear to the point I dream about it, I imagine it and have seen in my head how it would happen and how I would cope. It terrifies me, I have all the windows upstairs locked and wont ever open them even in summer :(
 
Mine are:

- Going downhill, especially in an open field after my horse bolted with me down a very steep hill 18 mths ago and I came off rather spectactularly...he is 17.2hh, it takes a while to hit the ground, you have a while to realise you are about to hit the ground and when you do it really hurts

- My horse getting spooked and going mad when he sees horses/cows in a field especially if they are galloping around

- Cantering in general although I'm working really hard to get over this one
 
hormonalmare said:
Oh dear, this has actually happened to me, and more than once...:redface: It happens at traffic lights - I usually leave the car in gear and leave the clutch in, with the other foot on the brake, but every once in a while I put the car in neutral and put the handbrake on, and when the lights change I sit there like a lemon wondering how to drive....:unsure: I always remember again very quickly, but it seems like an age when there's people behind waiting for you to move....
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Oh NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:frown: Really hope it doesn't happen to me!!!!! OH will completely think I've lost it...............:frown::yellowcarded:
 
Just thought of another one - paperclips!!!!! And STaples!!!!!! have a morbid fear that I'll swallow one (I mean, imagine if you're coffee cup is nearby and one accidentally falls in????)
I really need to pay out and get some help don't I?????????!
 
I am feeling scared of everything after reading this thread!

My horsey fears are:
1. Losing control and being bolted with. It has happened in the distant past on a couple of occassions and while I know now that I am a much better rider and the horses I ride are very well behaved, I can't shake it.
2. Hurting myself badly. I really don't want to do this!


My non horsey fears are:
1. Dogs - always have been since I was attacked as a child
2. Heights - I can't walk on a coastal path or go anywhere that doesn't have a good barrier. I am a nightmare when we are driving anywhere which has a steep drop on the other side and no barrier.
 
I can identify with a few of these fears too - I don't like walking cliff paths either, very scary and I don't like going downhill on horse-back either - until I moved off our first yard I'd never experienced it, was a heck of a shock when we moved to a hilly area and went hacking!!!!!!!
 
I can't think of many fears other than horse related ones... other than I hate snakes. They terrify me.

Horse wise... I'm scared Caymen takes off every time we hit grass. He has proved time and time again that this does not happen.

I am scared to ride in the school. Every bad horse experience I have had has been in one.

I am scared to hack alone even though I know my boy will be fine and it is all in my head. I'm working on this and about to post about my solo hack... on grass!!
 
Nails worry me too. I went mad the other day as OH had carelessly spilt a bag of nails in the tack room in one of the drawers (fencing nails - long ones) and I made him pick them up. I worry they will get stuck in the horses feed or bedding. I know they are large but they still worry me. And also small nails worry me and screws. I hated having the electrics put in cos the electrician might leave screws etc. I had to follow him around making sure he didn't drop any....................!!!!!!
 
my worst fears

Cantering galloping on the flat (fell off at fun ride)
Rearing and horse going over backwards and falling on me
Being bolted with (would be ok if horse bolted uphill lol..)
jumping (not good at landing)
Ozzy's dirty shys that he puts in Im out the side door every time grrrrr

Non horsey

Lifts lifts lifts sooo scared hate them
 
Trewsers said:
Nails worry me too. I went mad the other day as OH had carelessly spilt a bag of nails in the tack room in one of the drawers (fencing nails - long ones) and I made him pick them up. I worry they will get stuck in the horses feed or bedding. I know they are large but they still worry me. And also small nails worry me and screws. I hated having the electrics put in cos the electrician might leave screws etc. I had to follow him around making sure he didn't drop any....................!!!!!!
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Oh gosh i used my metal pulling comb to break the twine on a bale of hay once (stupid i know) one of the progs broke off i had to burn two bales of hay as i was scared the farmer might put the hay out in the field if i put it on the muck heap :frown:
 
oooh

Swimming pools that are empty, i could never go near one or ever stand in one. I will go in a full one but not near the drains, i have to do an assessment of where the draind are so i can avoid them.
 
Oooh Pencilbecket, I would be the same!!! I'd be really worried if a horse comb snapped a tooth off and I couldn't find it......oh dear. Tis a wonder I make it through the day sometimes.......!!!
 
Horse related
I fear going too fast - but I know that what I consider is too fast is normal speed for XC so got to get to grips with it
I fear showing myself up when jumping - as mates at yard insist on trotting to a pole before the jump and asking for canter over the pole. I cannot do this.
I fear a message in the morning. I have had two mesages saying that our yard has been broken into. I fear one day that they may get Max

I fear that I am making a fool of myself by even having a pony at my grand age, and

I fear
that the time I spend supporting my 22yo RI when she events (her parents drive us) is seen as the actions of a stupid old woman

I fear being a stupid old woman living out a mid life crisis by having a pony...
 
pepsimaxrock said:
Horse related
I fear going too fast - but I know that what I consider is too fast is normal speed for XC so got to get to grips with it
I fear showing myself up when jumping - as mates at yard insist on trotting to a pole before the jump and asking for canter over the pole. I cannot do this.
I fear a message in the morning. I have had two mesages saying that our yard has been broken into. I fear one day that they may get Max

I fear that I am making a fool of myself by even having a pony at my grand age, and

I fear
that the time I spend supporting my 22yo RI when she events (her parents drive us) is seen as the actions of a stupid old woman



I fear being a stupid old woman living out a mid life crisis by having a pony...
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Sometimes in life the things that were out of reach when we were younger come to us in later life. I do not know you PMR but i am sure you are far from a ''stupid old woman''. I also think it is very good of you to show such support to your RI. You sound very nice to me :smile:
 
Pepsimax - I thought you were in your teens?!lol, you don't come across as being an older rider (like myself!!!). Just goes to show......and you don't sound daft supporting your RI either. (And totally understand the bit about fearing yard being broken into)
 
Irrational fears - balloons. Terrible phobia of them. Can't be near anybody who is touching one, let alone a child. I go all sweaty & panicky and have to leave the vicinity pretty damn prompto. I've even refused to work in our office & have shut myself away in a meeting room for 2 days (working, not rocking & mumbling to myself I hasten to add!) as the office next door had them everywhere as somebody was leaving. In the end my manager got so fed up with me not being around he went & burst them all :redface:

I've had to make a quick dash out of restaurants before now as well. There's a Nando's down here I can never go to as they always have them :cry:

I'm also not a huge fan of spiders but will never kill them or let OH kill them - goes for any large arachnid or insect really. I find them interesting but they make my skin crawl (I wish they didn't, but they do!) I used to do quite a bit of scuba diving & was always terrified of huge wrecks or big objects in the water, including huge boulders etc.

Horse fears - being kicked. I'm scared generally of being hurt and especially falling off, especially being violently bucked off. Worse now I'm older, when I was younger I was less worried. I worry about Roxy being injured or becoming ill as I've become very complacant with her health since I've had her as we've been very lucky so far. I'm terrified of those I love the most dying, including Roxy.

I hate any sudden loud noise, anything from thunder to OH dropping some cutlery on the kitchen floor.

I also hate getting electric shocks from metal objects (not sure it's a fear but if I do randomly get one I find myself avoiding all things metal!)

Forgot to add I also hate eating in front of people. I don't mind restaurants so much when I'm with OH or anybody else I'm confortable with, but with OH's parents, siblings or anybody else I don't feel comfortable & way too self conscious....
 
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Roxy, I hate eating in front of people too. Unfortunately for me, as I've got older I even struggle in front of family - apart from OH of course! We went to a wedding do a few years ago and the food looked delicious but I had to pretend to eat and ended up just pushing the food around on the plate. Nobody noticed of course and I'm sure nobody would have looked if I had been eating, but there you go. Wish I could have put it in a tupperware box and brought it home...........oh dear...........
 
Trewsers if you get the feeling that you will be sick if you eat that is a major stress issue.

I did this at one stage in my life (young and newly promoted to a demanding job)and got told by company doctor it was a common warning sign and I was to take a break to de-stress!! I didn't of course as I was ambitious but it made me beat the problem using relaxation techniques.
 
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