I don't really post anything private on NR but you guys really are so lovely when things just don't go right or when things are fab and you just want to tell someone that understands but hey ho here it goes.
My OH and I have been together for 11 but just before Christmas I made the decision to leave. It was an emotional couple weeks and Christmas was horrid we went to our own families. As I am in RAF nothing is very straights forward. We live in a MQ and have a house up north.
It was agreed that the house would be sold and my OH would buy local here as he has a good job here where I can still be sent anywhere.
So in the last 2 months our house sold last week and he found and had a STC on a house his weekend. I now have the pleasure of being a 40 year old women living in a 12x12 room in the Sgt Mess until I can save enough money to buy a house of my own (think years not months).
The ponies will be fine they are not moving yards I love my yard and my friends have been truly amazing at a very difficult time. I am having the Springer and my OH is having the Bull Mastiff as I can't have both and actually will struggle with one and the ponies but will manage. I know some of you will think it is mean splitting them up but I couldn't bear to lose them both I have had Oscar for 11 years and I just can't do it I am losing everything else.
All this then Ginger went 'off' that's all I can say about it really. We had a comp in late December and he was the best he has ever been then two weeks later I'm riding and it feels wrong he feels wrong. This lasted a week and didn't get better. I thought it was just me for a while as I was upset and out of kilter and he was picking up on it. After a week I stopped riding I knew I had the physio booked in for the first week in Jan so just left him.
I explained my situation to her before she touched him and that I thought my tension had rubbed off on him. Well he nearly killed her. He was tight and sore from head to tail. She said what every had happened was to much for me to have caused in such a short time. That he had probably done something in his field in the bad weather. She did say how refreshing it was that someone blamed them self first before blaming the horse! it didn't make me feel better. Anyway she told me to get my saddles checked as well he was tight over his withers but that on its own would not have caused the issues.
So a week latter lots of exercises and lunging as told to do and saddler came out. She said what ever the Physio did it was a good job as his back was back to butter, She reflocked two of his saddles.
I have ridden three times since as didn't want to go from nothing to 7 days and he was back to gorgerous Ginger self.
So its been an emotional roller-coaster. I do appreciate what other people have far worse going on in their lives and this really is pretty minor in comparison but is has taken its toil on me all the same.
Thanks for reading and popcorn if you made it through to the end
My OH and I have been together for 11 but just before Christmas I made the decision to leave. It was an emotional couple weeks and Christmas was horrid we went to our own families. As I am in RAF nothing is very straights forward. We live in a MQ and have a house up north.
It was agreed that the house would be sold and my OH would buy local here as he has a good job here where I can still be sent anywhere.
So in the last 2 months our house sold last week and he found and had a STC on a house his weekend. I now have the pleasure of being a 40 year old women living in a 12x12 room in the Sgt Mess until I can save enough money to buy a house of my own (think years not months).
The ponies will be fine they are not moving yards I love my yard and my friends have been truly amazing at a very difficult time. I am having the Springer and my OH is having the Bull Mastiff as I can't have both and actually will struggle with one and the ponies but will manage. I know some of you will think it is mean splitting them up but I couldn't bear to lose them both I have had Oscar for 11 years and I just can't do it I am losing everything else.
All this then Ginger went 'off' that's all I can say about it really. We had a comp in late December and he was the best he has ever been then two weeks later I'm riding and it feels wrong he feels wrong. This lasted a week and didn't get better. I thought it was just me for a while as I was upset and out of kilter and he was picking up on it. After a week I stopped riding I knew I had the physio booked in for the first week in Jan so just left him.
I explained my situation to her before she touched him and that I thought my tension had rubbed off on him. Well he nearly killed her. He was tight and sore from head to tail. She said what every had happened was to much for me to have caused in such a short time. That he had probably done something in his field in the bad weather. She did say how refreshing it was that someone blamed them self first before blaming the horse! it didn't make me feel better. Anyway she told me to get my saddles checked as well he was tight over his withers but that on its own would not have caused the issues.
So a week latter lots of exercises and lunging as told to do and saddler came out. She said what ever the Physio did it was a good job as his back was back to butter, She reflocked two of his saddles.
I have ridden three times since as didn't want to go from nothing to 7 days and he was back to gorgerous Ginger self.
So its been an emotional roller-coaster. I do appreciate what other people have far worse going on in their lives and this really is pretty minor in comparison but is has taken its toil on me all the same.
Thanks for reading and popcorn if you made it through to the end