It is definitely a dig at you. Either she's mental, or it's that, and I'd say it's that!
I agree with sending back a crappy present for Christmas. In fact go to no expense for her present and just return the stuff she gave you... even if it is out of date!
NOPE, I don't see Poppadum wedding here.
1stPaperPaperClock
2ndCottonCottonChina
3rdLeatherCrystal, glass
4thLinen, silkFruit and flowersAppliances (electrical)
5thWoodSilverware
6thIronSugarWood objects
7thWool, copperWoollenDesk sets/pen and pencil sets
8thBronzeSaltLinens, lace
9thPotteryCopperLeather goods
10thTin, AluminumTinDiamond jewelry
11thSteelFashion jewelry, accessories
12thSilkSilk and fine linenPearls, colored gems
13thLaceTextiles, furs
14thIvoryGold jewelry
15thCrystalWatches
16thSilver holloware
17thFurniture
18thPorcelain
19thBronze
20thChinaPlatinum
21stBrass, Nickel
22ndCopper
23rdSilver plate
24thOpalMusical instruments
25thSilver
30thPearl
Diamond
35thCoral, jadeCoralJade
40thRuby
45thSapphire
50thGold
55thEmerald
60thDiamond (yellow)Diamond
65thBlue sapphire
70thPlatinum[15][16][17]
75thDiamond, gold
80thOak[18][19]Diamond, pearl
85thMoonstoneWineWife's birthstone
90thStoneEngraved marble, Granite [20]