- Apr 25, 2003
Going up on Monday to clear the furniture, bringing what we are using down here, and a clearance charity taking some perfectly lovely stuff to landfill as can't find a home for it. Some of it is really good but have advertised it and just nothing and I can't hang around forever.Please take care of yourself diplomatiandtactful. Being a carer (officially or otherwise) is incredibly difficult and as much as it's an act of love and practicality, it can be a huge burden and put all sorts of pressures on you.
There are people you can talk to and that can help practically, so please make use of them if you need to.
I do think ageing can be a very difficult thing. I'm sure it must be frightening, frustrating and as difficult for the elderly as it much as it can be for the other people involved.
Thinking of you all and sending lots of love.
Mixed emotions. Was my gran's house, so i went there from school at lunchtime and at night after school, pick up my dog Mandy and walk her home to our own house. And my best friend Angie - who died of cancer - used to come with me as her home was a tip and she loved to come there to chill out and relax. My last connection with both.
Next lived there myself, mum moved into it after gran died and I was in London by then. Some of the furniture is gran's most of it mum's. Will hurt like hell watching it all go and realising it is the last time I will ever be there. Feeling quite tearful about it, and the garden which is lovely. But things change.
Mum thinks i am not experiencing any emotions in this, believe me I am, but one of us has to do the stuff. Have to clean out the garden shed, dad's domain, all his stuff, sitting there since he died. Very hard for me. But has to be done. At least I found his ashes and they are safe.