I have always taken a dim view of the Confidence section of NR.
As someone who regularly posts and pays attention to the confidence section I am quite offended by this statement. Could you explain why you feel this way?
I have always taken a dim view of the Confidence section of NR.
This sounds to me like a real and justified fear. Three falls in a quite short time. A real problem. However wonderful you may think your horse is, your mind is rightly warning you that YOUR safety is the top priority. I would sit down and analyse what went wrong in each fall and how it might have been prevented.
this might seem quite obvious to those looking in but when you are going through this you cant see the wood for the trees, what if's etc - but to stop and think like you have prompted me to do instead of going round and round - I know why the accidents happened, she spooked for various reasons and my seat was not secure = another yes for going back to lessons
You sound to be a real experienced rider - but your intelligence and competence cant function if you are scared. And you are scared exactly because you understand the risks.
Of course, you know you'll get shot if you don't keep us all up to date with how you get on don't you :wink:
I'm equally offended too, I'm afraid... not very supportive, is it?I have always taken a dim view of the Confidence section of NR.
I have always taken a dim view of the Confidence section of NR.This is incredibly irresponsible and frankly rude. If she takes such a dim view why read or take time to respond to the posts??!! :furious:
I am feeling quite angry about this...but will try to refrain from ranting.... Without this forum I fear I would still be in a very bad way with my riding and my lovely Bob. I was stuck in a rut, hating hacking out and terrified to do anything more than walk for fear of falling off or Bob tanking off with me. I loved my horse but I was a nervous wreck and it was making me so miserable. It seemed like every day I thought about selling him, and even once filled out an advert on Horse and Hound before realising how much I love him and deleted it. The first time I posted here and got advice and support from all you lovely people it felt like a massive weight had been lifted from my shoulders. It was such a comfort to know there were others out there who were going through exactly what I was and they were on their way to getting through it.
This forum is about support, advice and positivity and if you can't provide those things I don't think you should post and affect us with your negativity.
By the way Dizzy Woo you are doing amazing, keep it up, don't do anything that scares you, build it up slowly and soon enough you will be back to your old self :happy:
Rant Over :smile:
I have always taken a dim view of the Confidence section of NR.This is incredibly irresponsible and frankly rude. If she takes such a dim view why read or take time to respond to the posts??!! :furious:
This forum is about support, advice and positivity and if you can't provide those things I don't think you should post and affect us with your negativity.
By the way Dizzy Woo you are doing amazing, keep it up, don't do anything that scares you, build it up slowly and soon enough you will be back to your old self :happy:
Rant Over :smile:
Totally agree about the support and advice and am so pleased I 'shared' my fears, I was too proud I suppose and didn't want to be labelled as a failure by those who knew me so I was pretending everything was OK. But now its out in the open I can deal with the fear and go forward.
What is also great and rather strange is that before this I always considered Daisy to be a rather indiferent pony - I have a couple of field ornaments who are always pleased to see me but Daisy never acted the same as them, but in these last few days since the pressure is off, Daisy is responding to me in a diffferent way too! she greets me at the gate and makes her windy wobbly whinny :biggrin:
Thank you everyone - just off to see the beast :giggle: